My Wish List

Some of the singles I meet at the office bring a “Wish-List” in their hands. They only want a certain range of Ages & Height. They only want to meet educated people. They only want them to be financially secured with a nice car. Of course they only want him/her to be Slender & Single.

I smile at them and I tell the following story:

As a part of our service in Israel we organized Trips overseas, as well as Weekends Getaways & Trips all over the country. Everyone had a chance to get to know all the others without any pressure. There was no time limit to impress anyone, which gave them the ability to be themselves and loosen up.

Each trip or weekend ended with at least one match. Both the girl and the guy had called me to hold their membership service. They liked each other and wanted to see where it was going.

One day Rina called. She was a customer for over a year then, asking me to hold her service because she met David. They like each other, they want to see where it goes.

I started laughing and said: ”I could have introduced you to this guy a year ago !”

Then Rina said: ”So why didn’t you ?”

I replied :”You wanted only Ashkenazi, he’s Sepharadic. You wanted only Single, he’s Divorced. You wanted only Educated, he’s an Electrician”.

Then Rina said: ”I guess I’m really stupid, right ?”

Then I said :”My dear, There are no rules for falling in love. You have to open your heart and mind. When you fall for someone you compromise on so many things. The beauty in this is, when you’re in love you don’t even know you compromised.

The best example here is my mother. A widow with 4 kids and no money, who eventually got married with a single man who fell in love with her and gave up on having his own children. This man accepted my mother with 4 kids, loved us as if we were his own, and that’s how we treat him in return.

Do you really think that a single man who’s looking for marriage, would have put “Widow with 4 kids” in his “Wish-List” ? I don’t think so.

When people meet and fall in love, anything is possible and the sky’s the limit.

So when you put “Only Young & Single” in a “Wish-List”, you’re probably missing your Soul-Mate.

I’ll be the first one to say that there are certain things you can’t and won’t compromise on. Like if the person is violent or cheap or generally a bad person. Or if you feel you can’t open your heart and tell him/her what’s on your mind. Or if the person is indecent, disloyal or even just lazy (in terms of work).

But come on guys, if he/she is a little bit older, or if he/she is 1 or 2 sizes more than the average. Do you really think that’s what will stop you from being happy with this person ??

Think about it. Call me with an open mind and no “Wish-List”.

Yours,
ilana

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