No matter how successful you are – if you have an amazing job you love and you have best of friends – If you’re not married or at least in a relationship leading to marriage, it is easy to feel as if you failed in life. Or even worse, your mother feels that SHE has failed, and she drops the blame on you.

Marriage is often considered to be the Ultimate Proof of Success!

As the old saying goes, “It is not good for a man (or woman) to be alone”.

If you are single, you already know that being alone is not fun at all. Regardless of societal and family expectations, when there is no one to share every day excitement with, life can seem mundane and boring.

How long can you feel like like a third wheel to friends who have their own families and daily frustrations and worries? Also, it’s certainly not very much fun to go back to an empty house day after day. Especially not after meeting with friends, when you want to end up the day in the arms of a special someone, and you find yourself in the arms of your household pet.

For every Bachelor/ Bachelorette there are some difficult moments in life that really aren’t pleasant to deal with. One of them is when you arrive to a wedding – someone else’s of course. That’s when you experience the mercy looks of everyone, and the repeating sayings – “next time it will be you.”

The most difficult times with no doubt, are the holidays. In Israel most people are dealing with two major holidays: Passover and Rosh Hashanah. Here in America, we also celebrate the Non-Jewish holidays.

On one hand it’s nice to have a good reason to celebrate, but on the other hand the holidays season is tough, because it’s all about social gatherings and/or family reunions. That’s when the feeling of loneliness is more focused, simply because it’s so unpleasant to spend the holidays with no spouse.

Couples go on romantic vacations & camping trips, couples have their own private world and connect more easily with other couples. This isn’t the only reason to find a mate, but you must admit the sense of loneliness that exists already inside, is increasing more and more during the holiday season – for both men and women.

Every single woman has something in common with the opening scene of the movie “Bridget Jones’s Diary”. It’s when she comes home for Christmas, to a mother who has a single man to fix her up with, and a sweater she would never have thought of wearing. It’s the questions of her horny uncle or everyone’s needing to fix her up. These are the situations which bring up the feeling as if something is wrong with her. A feeling of total discomfort with a desire to run away as far as possible.

When traveling to Israel for the holidays, you almost always encounter the patronizing looks of pity as if asking: No way! Are you still alone? What could be wrong with you? Won’t you please do your mother/ father/ grandmother/ aunt a favor and get married already…?

When staying in the U.S, you are a “fallout”. You are welcome and always wanted, but still a “fallout” at celebrations of other families. Because even though they love you and accept you, you are still at the mercy of strangers’ invitations, because you are alone.

Fact is we can’t help it. Our society is a mirror reflecting what we really feel – and we can’t run away from it. Because if we wouldn’t mind being alone, we wouldn’t pay attention to what society or our family has to say about our personal situation.

So aren’t you tired of being single? Have you realized that you’re still single only because you chose to, and you can chose otherwise? Isn’t it so clear that you’re willing to do ANYTHING to make a change?

You know, finding a partner is a project like any other project! So set yourself up and go to the “Home Depot” of Jewish matchmaking – My Global Match. Stop making yourself miserable by saying “It’s not meant to be”. Go for it all the way!

Stop thinking “Me? Matchmaking Service?”. People are fixing you up all the time anyway, wouldn’t it be better to do it with a professional?

Pick up the phone right now and call ilana Gutman at (818) 788-8360 so that next holiday you’ll be “Couple”,not “Single.”

You deserve happiness!

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