Archive for the ‘jewish matchmaker’ Category

1. The more people I go out with, even if they are not Jewish, the better chance I have of meeting Mr./Ms. Right.

Many people think that dating is a numbers game, and it’s all about “getting out there” and making yourself available. Well, for many Jewish singles, this ends up in dating burnout, especially if the person is also dating non-jews.

It’s better to date a few exceptional Jewish singles than dozens of people who sound “interesting” but will never turn into anything real. You’re looking for one lifelong partner, not 100 cups of coffee.

2. The smartest and most attractive people marry first.

This is absolutely false. There are many amazing people who, because of the demands of work or family, simply cannot find the time to focus on finding their Jewish soulmate. It is for this reason that many successful people turn to the assistance of a Jewish matchmaker when looking to find a serious partner.

3. All good Jewish men and women are taken.

WRONG. There are millions of wonderful Jewish singles out there, it just take time and skill in meeting them. Again, this is the reason many Jewish singles use a Jewish matchmaking service to help them find other like minded Jewish people to date.

We live in a huge, wonderful world. It just takes a bit of maneuvering to meet the perfect Jewish soulmate.

4. It doesn’t matter if your family and friends and family like the person you’re dating. You understand him or her, and your opinion is the only one that matters.

This is especially false in the Jewish culture. The opinion of family, friends and the synagogue are all very important. If your potential spouse does not get along with the most important people in your life, how does your relationship have hope of long-term survival? More importantly, how will this affect the children that you have with your spouse?

In today’s super-charged modern lifestyles, Jewish singles can get so caught up their daily lives, that they miss the truly important aspects of life, like love and family. For many young Jewish singles, and for singles in general, it’s difficult to find the time and space in life for a special relationship. The demands of work and the distractions of living in a big city can make it easy to overlook what is truly important; finding a true Jewish love to share a life with and start a family.

For Jewish singles who have been hurt or betrayed by past relationships, getting back into the dating game is even more difficult.

ilana Gutman’s Jewish matchmaking service can be an invaluable resource for people looking to find a serious long-term relationship, and eventually marriage, with their Jewish soulmate.

My Global Match helps Jewish singles meet a selective pool of educated, well-employed and serious Jewish professionals. ilana Gutman spends hours carefully interviewing and getting to know her prospective clients, so that she can match them with Jewish singles that share similar tastes, hobbies, and family goals.

It is a comforting thought that Jewish singles, whether they are divorced, widowed, in their early twenties or still single in their middle fifties, no longer feel that they are left to their own devices. For those who are tired of Internet dating and want a more personalized, premiere service, My Global Match is an ideal option.

Call ilana today at (818) 788-8360 to schedule a free consultation.

I was recently reading an article in aish.com written by a 68 year old Jewish woman who said that she gave up on the hope of romance at age 30. After a number of rejections in her 20s, she simply could not bear the thought of being disappointed ever again. So for thirty she has remained alone with no hope of finding her true Jewish soulmate.

This woman wrote that when she was young, she often wished her father, who was a professor, would bring home a nice boy for her meet. She hated the dating game, and never felt that she truly achieved real intimacy with the men she casually dated. She felt that the men she met only wanted physical intimacy, without taking the trouble to really get to know her as a person.

She writes that “in today’s fast and shallow Facebook world, so many relationships — even without physical intimacy — are coming to resemble…emptiness more and more. There can be a kind of promiscuity without physical contact. It occurs wherever people “get to know” one another without coming to care for one another.”

For all of those people who can relate to this woman’s feelings and experiences, I want to tell you that there is hope.

Every single person on this Earth deserves to love and be loved. Also, every person deserves to be loved for who they are, without any false pretenses or illusions.

With my Jewish Dating Service, My Global Match, my goal is not to set you up on a casual date that will last for a few weeks or months. My goal is to match you with someone that can lead to the long-term goal of marriage and children. There is none of the “emptiness” that the woman above describes in the Jewish matches that I arrange. My service is not a meat market like many online dating sites. It’s not about the quantity of dates – it’s about the quality of people that you will meet through my service.

Don’t get me wrong, I can’t guarantee that every date I match you with will be “The One”. But I can promise you that I will closely listen when you describe what you are looking for in a partner, and I will find potential Jewish singles that can complement your likes and dislikes, and who will want to spend time with you getting to know the real you.

So if you ever ask your self “Should I Give Up on Love?”, the answer is 100%, absolutely NO! The one for you is out there. Call me so that we can discover your destiny together.

Love,

ilana

My friend gave me an article written by a young Jewish school teacher. One day she asked her class the question, “What is true love?”

Initially, not one person responded to her question. Then she said, “I will tell you what love is, and then you can agree or disagree”

So she said “True love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person.” Every child in the room raised his or her hand.

When I read this I thought, this is how all of my adult relatives and friends approach love as well! It’s a physical “feeling”, almost like magic, that hits you when you meet your soulmate.

But is this true? I don’t think so. True Love is more than simply a physical reaction, it’s also a very complex emotional and physcological experience.

I wonder if this is why there are so many casual one-night-stands where “true love” sweeps over two people one moment, and then completely disappears when they realize they have nothing in common.

If you believe that there is more to Jewish Love than a momentary sensation that is there one moment and gone the next, I encourage you to contact me.

At My Global Match we believe that true love is a multi-dimensional emotion, based on a hundred different factors, from looks, intelligence, honesty, humor, charm and much more. We thoroughly interview our clients so that we can set them up on dates that can last a lifetime, rather than a moment.

This is why I spend hours with each of my clients before I send them out on dates. I want to know who they truly are, so that I can pair them with a Jewish single that be a true match in more than just the physical sense. The Jewish matches that I arrange are built on True Love that has a stable foundation, where both people truly know one another, and the love is more than just a feeling – it’s a way of life.

If you are considering joining a Jewish matchmaking or dating service, please give me a call. I would love to chat with you about what you are looking for and explain how My Global Match can help you achieve your true dreams in finding a Jewish Soulmate.

Looking forward to speaking with each and every one of you,

ilana

2010 will be a very special year for me. This year I will turn 50, which means that I will be closing 30 years of hard work. All I hope and wish for myself is another 30 wonderful years of successful work and fulfilment.

All throughout my life, even when I was in my 20s, I have never felt content with the status quota. I’ve never felt like “This is it, I’ve found peace at last”. I have always felt that I had so much to establish in life. My goal has been to conquer the world and make the best out of life. As I get older, I want to explore everything there is to know. When I turn 60 or 70, I won’t feel that my best years are already past, and that all there is left to do is retire, spend the time with my grandchildren or play cards with friends.

Whenever people ask me when is the right time to retire and travel the world, I always say I live a good life right now, I don’t need to retire for that. Neither my children, nor my husband or my parents ever stopped me from achieving a goal. I married at age 20, went to college during the evenings, started my business in Israel and then my family and I travelled the world. I did all that and raised my children with the help of a wonderful and supporting husband.

Even if people will not be praising my accomplishments years after I die, the most important for me is to know that I explored and fulfilled everything in life. I have had the opportunity to love, breathe, feel pain, be excited, explore, and I have all the right reasons to get up in the morning. That is most significant!

I consider my biggest achievement to be the love I have found with my husband and the beautiful family we have created.

For many people, the start of life is connected to the start of a relationship or a family. If you have reached a point in your life where materially, it appears that you have everything, but romantically and emotionally you are dissatisfied, then perhaps it’s time to do something about it and join a Jewish Matchmaking service.

My Global Match is expanding locations, so that no matter where you are in the United States, we can help you find your perfect Jewish match.

Starting March 2010, we will have offices in Florida and New York.

If you are interested in making a big change in your life for 2010 or if you have single Jewish friends who are looking for a serious relationship and eventually marriage and children, it’s time to tell them about us. The first 100 Jewish singles at each branch will be registered FOR FREE. New singles can be any age, from 20 to 100. Our only requirement is that every person who signs up be serious and decent people who sincerely wish to get married.

I certainly hope that each and every one of you have big plans and dreams for 2010. The only way to achieve goals and fulfill dreams is by making decisions. Nobody stops you from fulfilling your dreams. The only person who can stop you is yourself.

Think about what’s important to you. Think about what you wish for. Prepare a plan and go for it in full speed ahead. I know that’s what I will do.

Good Luck to all of us. May 2010 be an amazing year and I hope that all our dreams would come true.

Amen!

HAPPY NEW YEAR

ilana Gutman

A few weeks ago I had an intense discussion with a dear friend about the meaning of success and failure.

My friend claimed that if you don’t reach the maximum of your capabilities you will never be successful. For example: A Doctor at a hospital that realizes he or she will never be a professor or department manager. A Lawyer that aspires to be appointed a judge, but never achieves this dream. An army officer that yearns to reach the rank of colonel but does not. These people will live with a sense of missed opportunity all their lives.

The discussion between me and my friend became even more intense. Can a person who has reached the highest level of their career, such as CEO, Commander in Chief, President or Prime Minister, be happier than a manager, secretary, a salesperson or a nurse?

I claimed that if you love your work, make a good living and still have time for personal interests, such as finding the time to spend with your spouse, your children and your close family, you are much more successful than a senior manager who works 24/7 and makes significantly more money. Often, financially successful people have little or no room for quality time in their lives, because they are constantly working. I gave an example of famous celebrities. Most of them don’t have any spare time for their friends or family.

The debate lasted all evening. Needless to say each of us stayed in his mind.

The problem is that society has become more and more materialistic. Sadly, people are measured by their economic situation. If you’re rich, that means you are a very successful person. No matter how you’ve made your fortune.

For an example: a person who owned many properties was considered successful. But he had lost everything during the recession period. Is he a loser now? Isn’t he the same person you wanted to be friends with, before the crisis?

Are people measured by their contribution to their immediate environment ? By their good heart, generosity, and their ability to be real true friends? Are they measured by their ability to give good advice or a nice word, when someone needs it ? Or are they mainly measured by what they can contribute to others because of their economic situation?

I give up!

I just hope that every one of you appreciates his or herself well, because that is what matters the most.

If you love what you do, if you’re with a spouse you love, if you have children and you can provide them with all their needs like love, security and peace of mind, for me you are the biggest winner.

In case you are not this person, it’s not the end of the world. As long as you are healthy, you are still capable to make a change in your life.

May we all have a wonderful year. May we achieve all the goals we have set for ourselves. May we all believe that there is a winner in each and every one of us!

ilana Gutman

Rina came to the U.S., following her childhood sweetheart who decided to leave Israel and try his luck in America, where they say “Anything is Possible”. She was very much in love and very young, only 24 years old. She packed all her belongings, said good bye to her family and friends, and went after her boyfriend David to the other side of the world.

After a while, Rina started to work as a secretary at a moving company. She made very good money. David had a chance to open his own business.

A few years passed, as did their love, so they decided to separate.

Rina was already 31 years old. She was alone without any close friends or relatives, and spent most of her time at work. She couldn’t avoid the terrible feeling that life was passing by her.

One day she found an ad of a Matchmaking Service for marriage. She couldn’t help thinking: “There’s nothing to lose, I think I should give it a try”.

When she came to meet us she was very impressed when we explained how we work. She registered without hesitation.

Over a short period of time she met several guys. All of them were interested in her and they behaved very nicely. But the click wasn’t there for her. She was looking for a relationship that would last a lifetime.

After 3 months of dating people, she went on a date with Jonathan. It was love at first sight!

They moved in together only a month after they met. Four months later Rina found out she was pregnant.

This was the greatest joy of all. The family from both sides came all the way from Israel to celebrate the wedding and a “Brit Milah” for their first born baby Arieh.

Today Jonathan and Rina are very happy parents. They found their happiness thanks to Rina’s brave decision to register to our Matchmaking Service.

So what are you waiting for?

Pick up the phone to set up a meeting that will probably change your life!

Hayim and Rayah

Hayim came to “Global Match” two years ago. He was 55 years old widower with two children, a 10 yo son and 8 yo daughter. He wasn’t looking for love, he wanted a mother to his children and a life-long partner. Someone to respect and honour, and have a pleasant time with

At the same time Rayah registered to our service. Rayah is a single 48 yo psychologist who lost her faith about having her own children. All she wanted was to find a life-time loving partner “Someone to watch TV with at nights, someone to go out for dinner with, once in a while”, as she said

When I introduced between Rayah and Hayim, I thought to myself they’re a good fit. They had the same world view. I strongly felt some unexpected surprises were waiting for them

On their first meeting Hayim already told Rayah he didn’t want to waste anymore time on romantic dates and  nights out. He offered her to meet his children. If they’d get along, he’d want her to move in with him. They would take it from there and see.

After 3 months I received a check which made me realize they made it. I haven’t heard from them since, I just hoped and prayed they were happy.

One night I went to a movie with my husband. In front of us there was an elderly couple who kept cuddling and kissing. When the movie ended and the lights went on, there I noticed them. No other than Rayah and Hayim, who seemed quite happy. I turned to them and introduced them to my husband as my friends. They asked us to join them for coffee, I said it’d be our pleasure.

During the evening they told me about how the first year was difficult and frustrating. All the problems they had in communicating with each other and his children. They told us about his ex-wife’s family who criticized her every step and move. And it took time for the children to get used to the situation, to understand and accept Rayah as a mother.

Rayah told me that Hayim means the world to her. His kids compensated her for not having children of her own. During the first year his good heart, wisdom and sensitivity made her fall in love with him. He saw the dedication, sacrifice and love that she lavished on his children. From sad and nervous children they became happy and confident. This made him fall in love with her to the utmost.

They smiled at us and admitted “this wasn’t love at first sight, but this love will last forever!”.

We were so happy for them, and we all decided to stay in touch and get together more.

On our way home my husband (who’s not involved in my business) said to me “Wow dear, you did it big time, good for you!”.

No matter how successful you are – if you have an amazing job you love and you have best of friends – If you’re not married or at least in a relationship leading to marriage, it is easy to feel as if you failed in life. Or even worse, your mother feels that SHE has failed, and she drops the blame on you.

Marriage is often considered to be the Ultimate Proof of Success!

As the old saying goes, “It is not good for a man (or woman) to be alone”.

If you are single, you already know that being alone is not fun at all. Regardless of societal and family expectations, when there is no one to share every day excitement with, life can seem mundane and boring.

How long can you feel like like a third wheel to friends who have their own families and daily frustrations and worries? Also, it’s certainly not very much fun to go back to an empty house day after day. Especially not after meeting with friends, when you want to end up the day in the arms of a special someone, and you find yourself in the arms of your household pet.

For every Bachelor/ Bachelorette there are some difficult moments in life that really aren’t pleasant to deal with. One of them is when you arrive to a wedding – someone else’s of course. That’s when you experience the mercy looks of everyone, and the repeating sayings – “next time it will be you.”

The most difficult times with no doubt, are the holidays. In Israel most people are dealing with two major holidays: Passover and Rosh Hashanah. Here in America, we also celebrate the Non-Jewish holidays.

On one hand it’s nice to have a good reason to celebrate, but on the other hand the holidays season is tough, because it’s all about social gatherings and/or family reunions. That’s when the feeling of loneliness is more focused, simply because it’s so unpleasant to spend the holidays with no spouse.

Couples go on romantic vacations & camping trips, couples have their own private world and connect more easily with other couples. This isn’t the only reason to find a mate, but you must admit the sense of loneliness that exists already inside, is increasing more and more during the holiday season – for both men and women.

Every single woman has something in common with the opening scene of the movie “Bridget Jones’s Diary”. It’s when she comes home for Christmas, to a mother who has a single man to fix her up with, and a sweater she would never have thought of wearing. It’s the questions of her horny uncle or everyone’s needing to fix her up. These are the situations which bring up the feeling as if something is wrong with her. A feeling of total discomfort with a desire to run away as far as possible.

When traveling to Israel for the holidays, you almost always encounter the patronizing looks of pity as if asking: No way! Are you still alone? What could be wrong with you? Won’t you please do your mother/ father/ grandmother/ aunt a favor and get married already…?

When staying in the U.S, you are a “fallout”. You are welcome and always wanted, but still a “fallout” at celebrations of other families. Because even though they love you and accept you, you are still at the mercy of strangers’ invitations, because you are alone.

Fact is we can’t help it. Our society is a mirror reflecting what we really feel – and we can’t run away from it. Because if we wouldn’t mind being alone, we wouldn’t pay attention to what society or our family has to say about our personal situation.

So aren’t you tired of being single? Have you realized that you’re still single only because you chose to, and you can chose otherwise? Isn’t it so clear that you’re willing to do ANYTHING to make a change?

You know, finding a partner is a project like any other project! So set yourself up and go to the “Home Depot” of Jewish matchmaking – My Global Match. Stop making yourself miserable by saying “It’s not meant to be”. Go for it all the way!

Stop thinking “Me? Matchmaking Service?”. People are fixing you up all the time anyway, wouldn’t it be better to do it with a professional?

Pick up the phone right now and call ilana Gutman at (818) 788-8360 so that next holiday you’ll be “Couple”,not “Single.”

You deserve happiness!

Do we really have to avoid subscribing to a Matchmaking Service when we know our financial situation doesn’t allow us to spend this kind of money?

In the last few months many singles are telling me how lonely they are, how scared they are being alone and how afraid they are just from the thought of growing old alone. The thought of missing the great pleasure of being a parent terrifies many singles.

On the other hand, they also tell me how difficult their financial situation is. They say that there is no way that they can afford paying for a Matchmaking Service.

I turn to them and ask: What is your priority?

When you go to a posh hair salon, buy new designer clothes, or have dinner in an expensive restaurant, do you feel happier and more content? Most people do because they feel that they are investing in themselves.

Investing in a matchmaking service is one of the greatest investments you can make in yourself and your future.

Loneliness is one of the most difficult mental states. You feel you don’t belong to anyone and you don’t have anyone to trust. You feel unsuccessful because you have no one with whom to share your accomplishments. You feel unattractive to others, and you are easily convinced that nobody could love you.

The worst feeling is (G-d forbid!), that you don’t have anything to live for.
Whether it is you or someone close to you that has these signs of distress, then Matchmaking Service is definitely not just another a luxury expense. You have to face the fact there might be a problem and you owe it to yourself and your loved one to solve it.

If you are honestly happy being single and wish to remain that way – and there are many people who love their solitude – then you do not need Matchmaking Service.

If you wake up in the morning thinking how wonderful life is and feel like you have a rich social life filled with interesting people and that you have many opportunities for satisfying relationships whenever you choose, then you also do not need a matchmaking service. Just make sure that you are being true to yourself in this regard.

However, if your day-today reality is unhappy, if you feel increasingly isolated and alone with each passing day, or if you live in a place where you rarely meet new people that you could be interested in, then it’s time to contact “Global Match”.

I have a large variety of high-quality, educated and professional Jewish singles, who just like you, are looking for true love & commitment.

My clients are people that have made finding their true soulmate their #1 priority. They have temporarily given up other luxury items, because they realized that this is much more important to them than going on a cruise, buying another expensive pair of shoes or a fancy dress. They decided to take it into to their own hands because, although they know G-d is there for them, they also know that exciting things only happen with we first help ourselves.

In regard to payment, there’s no reason for you to worry about that. I’ll make sure that each & everyone of you will be able to pay according to her/his personal situation. We’ll make a payment plan that’s right for you!

Hoping to hear from you soon,

Yours,
ilana Gutman