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Do we really have to avoid subscribing to a Matchmaking Service when we know our financial situation doesn’t allow us to spend this kind of money?

In the last few months many singles are telling me how lonely they are, how scared they are being alone and how afraid they are just from the thought of growing old alone. The thought of missing the great pleasure of being a parent terrifies many singles.

On the other hand, they also tell me how difficult their financial situation is. They say that there is no way that they can afford paying for a Matchmaking Service.

I turn to them and ask: What is your priority?

When you go to a posh hair salon, buy new designer clothes, or have dinner in an expensive restaurant, do you feel happier and more content? Most people do because they feel that they are investing in themselves.

Investing in a matchmaking service is one of the greatest investments you can make in yourself and your future.

Loneliness is one of the most difficult mental states. You feel you don’t belong to anyone and you don’t have anyone to trust. You feel unsuccessful because you have no one with whom to share your accomplishments. You feel unattractive to others, and you are easily convinced that nobody could love you.

The worst feeling is (G-d forbid!), that you don’t have anything to live for.
Whether it is you or someone close to you that has these signs of distress, then Matchmaking Service is definitely not just another a luxury expense. You have to face the fact there might be a problem and you owe it to yourself and your loved one to solve it.

If you are honestly happy being single and wish to remain that way – and there are many people who love their solitude – then you do not need Matchmaking Service.

If you wake up in the morning thinking how wonderful life is and feel like you have a rich social life filled with interesting people and that you have many opportunities for satisfying relationships whenever you choose, then you also do not need a matchmaking service. Just make sure that you are being true to yourself in this regard.

However, if your day-today reality is unhappy, if you feel increasingly isolated and alone with each passing day, or if you live in a place where you rarely meet new people that you could be interested in, then it’s time to contact “Global Match”.

I have a large variety of high-quality, educated and professional Jewish singles, who just like you, are looking for true love & commitment.

My clients are people that have made finding their true soulmate their #1 priority. They have temporarily given up other luxury items, because they realized that this is much more important to them than going on a cruise, buying another expensive pair of shoes or a fancy dress. They decided to take it into to their own hands because, although they know G-d is there for them, they also know that exciting things only happen with we first help ourselves.

In regard to payment, there’s no reason for you to worry about that. I’ll make sure that each & everyone of you will be able to pay according to her/his personal situation. We’ll make a payment plan that’s right for you!

Hoping to hear from you soon,

Yours,
ilana Gutman

The holiday season is one of the most difficult times of the year for singles.

Feelings of loneliness can become more intense when surrounded by married family members and their children. Single men and women feel even more isolated around this time of year.

Inevitably, there will be that one sarcastic family member who raises his or her glass and makes a blessing like “we wish that this coming year will bring our single ______ his / her perfect match. Amen.”

The sense of expectation from family members makes it even harder for unmarried people to feel comfortable about being alone. Family members constantly ask single relatives questions like “So, are you dating anyone?” “Are you thinking about marriage?” “Are children in the plans for you?”

Even if the single person is successful and educated, questions like this can easily make him or her feel like a loser, especially when surrounded by happily married family members and their children.

These feelings are even more pronounced when you are separated from your immediate family and are spending the holidays with extended relatives.

If you have found yourself in this situation one too many holiday seasons, isn’t about time that you did something that could bring about a change in your life?

You might have never imagined that a Matchmaking service could be one approach to finding a potential spouse. But the “How” isn’t important; it’s the end-goal that matters – “the ends justify the means”.

My service, My Global Match, matches single Jewish professionals with like-minded individuals that are interested in long-term relationships, and eventually marriage. My Jewish Matchmaking service is about much more than just casual online dating without commitment. It is about finding your soul mate – a partner for a lifetime.

I cannot guarantee that if you sign up with my service that you will have a spouse by the coming holidays. But I can assure you that if you are persistent, outgoing and open minded about meeting a lot of new people, in the end you WILL meet your soul mate. With God’s help, and mine, you will celebrate many happy holidays with a loving Jewish partner in your own home, surrounded by cherished family members and good friends.

Make a change in your life this holiday season and start by contacting me to set up a non-obligation appointment.

With Greetings for a Happy Holidays
Yours truly,
Ilana Gutman

My name is Sigal. I signed up for Global Match in March of 2008. When I joined My Global Match, I was in my early 40’s and wanted to find a relationship with someone who really wanted marriage and children. I had become weary of regular internet dating sites, and was usually disappointed by the men I met. It seemed that I only met men looking for a casual experience or hook-up. I wanted something real and long-lasting. I decided to take one last chance with Ilana’s Match Making service after one of my friends was successful with My Global Match.

I took the first step and contacted Ilana and Dorit for a free consultation. I knew I had made the right decision once I stepped inside the office. Ilana explained that My Global Match is only for people who are interested in serious relationships. She does not sign up people who just want to date without any intention of becoming serious. Ilana also meets each and every client in person, which guarantees that all the information about the client is completely accurate. After the free consultation I was more than pleased and immediately signed up to meet my perfect match.

During the first month with Global Match I met 5 different men who all matched my requests, but unfortunately the chemistry was not there. I spoke with Ilana and Dorit after each date and told them my honest impressions. It was as if I quickly gained two new best friends after I signed up with My Global Match – I was speaking to either Ilana or Dorit on a weekly basis, telling them in-depth about each of the men they matched me with.

At the end of April, Dorit called and was confident that she had the right match for me.

Dorit was right. Date number 6 was love at first site when I was introduced to Yoram. The next day after the initial meeting both Yoram and I called Dorit to let her know how pleased we were and did not want to go on any other dates for now.

A few months after our first date, Yoram asked me to marry him before the year is up. Now, more than a year later we are so happy and cannot thank Global Match enough for introducing us.

Thank You Global Match….

Yoram & Sigal

I know itʼs true that 26 is still considered young and that I have the entire world before me. However, I’m not the type of woman who sits at home waiting for things to happen. When I decided a few years ago that it was time for me to meet my match and settle down, nothing could dissuade me from achieving this dream.

To give you a little history about myself; I came to the U.S after serving the Israeli Defense Forces for 2 years. When I first arrived to California, I stayed with my uncle and aunt who have lived here for more than 20 years.

My first job in the U.S. was as a waitress. This paid me enough money to rent a nice apartment with a
friend in Sherman Oaks. I settled very easily into my new city and had enough money to live comfortably. At that time I also got to know a few Israeli guys who came to eat at my restaurant.

I went out with my new friends, had fun and met my first boyfriend in the U.S. – Boaz. We were together
for two years until he decided to return to Israel for University. The separation was painful but it
was clear to me that I wanted to stay here. I also realized that I had no future with Boaz, who always
dreamed about studying medicine. He announced plain and simple that over the next decade his career
would be the number one priority for him.

After two and a half years I needed a change. I quit my restaurant job and found work as a secretary and sales
associate at a construction company. In the evening I studied Accounting and English.
I was 25 years old, made good money, loved my life in LA, but still felt lonely nevertheless. I decided it
was time to pull myself together and find a partner for life.

At first I told all my friends and relatives that if they knew a nice guy around the age of 30,
whoʼs looking for a serious relationship, they should give him my phone number.

I met several nice guys, but there was no “click”. Also, I did not like that all my friends had to know exactly
what happened with everyone I met. They always tried to convince me to give it a chance even when
I knew there wasnʼt any possibility.

Just when I thought I was running out of options, I signed up for Jdate. It was nice at first and I met lots of men. But I discovered that many of them are just looking for casual fun, and were not interested in commitment and marriage.

I decided to call Ilana Gutman of My Global Match, whose ads I had being seeing for a while.

I arranged an appointment with no obligation. I wanted to know what made her service so different from all of the other dating websites.

Ilana explained that there were countless ways and opportunities to meet “the one”. But the difference between guys who sign up for online dating and her clients is their level of seriousness and their desire to have a
family, without games or pretense. Also, there are dozens of nice people you can find online, but there
are many more crooks, liars, and even married men whoʼre just looking for an adventure.
Ilana convinced me that if a guy pays thousands of dollars to register, heʼs indeed serious about it
and wants a wife & family.

I signed up. At first I was not very pleased. In 3 months I met 12 guys. True, they were serious, they
were nice, but there was no “click” and I almost gave up. Ilana and Dorit calmed me and said I have
to be patient. Iʼll meet the right one, all I needed to do was keep dating people and believe.

Then one day Ilana called saying she had found “him”, the one of my dreams. I was very skeptical and refused to believe. But Ilana insisted that I give it my best and smile.

It happened. The date was amazing!

We didnʼt want to go home. We stayed at the restaurant until they turned down the lights. Before I got
home that night there was a message from him saying he already missed me. I felt exactly the same.

The connection between us was so strong and certain, that we didn’t wait very long before we started planning our wedding. Now, only a few years later, it is like we have known each other our entire lives.

So thank you so much Ilana and Dorit for cheering me up and for not letting me give up. I love
you both always, Peninah.

Baruch, a handsome and kind man who has worked as a carpenter all of his life, loved his wife with all his heart. He was 58 when she died.

His wife suffered from cancer for years. Although they never liked talking about it, Baruch knew the moment would come when she would leave him. The last few years of her life it weren’t easy, he had to do almost everything by himself. The sense of loneliness was terrible. After she died, coming back into an empty house was almost more than he could bear. Baruch had two married children and 5 grandchildren. Everyday he visited them after work and spent his evenings with them.

7 years of loneliness passed by, each year more difficult than the last. One day his daughter-in-law said, “Baruch you are a 65-year-old, nice and handsome man, why don’t you find yourself a life-long partner?” Baruch was very surprised and said “You really wouldn’t mind if I do?”

“Baruch, we want you to be happy” said his daughter-in-law. “We all talked about it and agreed that you can’t live by yourself anymore”. “But where can I find the right woman for me at my age?” asked Baruch. His daughter-in-law took out a paper with a “Global Match” ad and said “I have been following their ads for a long time. I’ll call for an appointment, can I enroll you?” Baruch laughed and said “You set the meeting, I can take it from there”.

All Baruch said he was looking for was a good woman. He preferred a thin Ashkenazi woman (“because they make the best food”). “I don’t like fat women” he also said. “All I want is someone nice to watch TV and have fun with”.

Miri registered to “Global Match” several months before Baruch. She was a petite and thin 60-year-old woman whose life wasn’t easy for her. She lost her husband when her children were very little. She raised them alone without any financial support. It was only when they left the house and had their own families that she finally had time for herself. We thought they could be a good match. This was Baruch’s first date and Miri’s fifth. They had a very pleasant evening together. They felt like they were old acquaintances. The next morning they both called us asking to put their membership on hold, saying that they wanted to give it a try.

They are still together ever since that call.

My name is Rachel and I’m a bank economist. I never thought I was the type of a woman who’d need a Matchmaking Service. I’m definitely not shy and I’m very self-confident. All over the years, ever since I was a teenager, I always had great friends and healthy relationships. It was very important for my parents that I’d marry a Jewish guy.

My parents are the ones who saw the “Global Match” ad in the paper. They called Ilana Gutman without me knowing about it and without my approval. When they finally told me what they did, I was very angry. I said “No Way! I’m going to find my match on my own!”

Almost a year passed since my mother had met with Ilana. During this time I was brainwashed by my parents. They kept claiming that my grandparents must be turning in their graves if they knew their grandchild was dating gentiles. That was when I “gave up” and agreed to meet with Ilana myself.

The meeting with Ilana was very pleasant. There was no pressure at all. Ilana was wondering if I had anything against Jewish guys or Israelis, I said of course not. She asked if I cared to go out with these guys. She assured me they all are very nice, educated and Jewish, and that I don’t have any obligation except to date and meet new people.

I did some thinking and said to myself I had nothing to lose. At least my parents would stop nagging me. And if it didn’t work out, my parents could not accuse me of not giving it a try.

I started dating guys through Ilana’s service. It didn’t take long for me to understand that it was much more simple with Jewish guys. Because we shared the same culture, they understood where I came from. I felt belonged.

I met 7 men in three months. Some of them are still my friends. The Eighth guy was Dudi. Just by talking on the phone it was already clear to me that he was different. We didn’t want to get off the phone. We wanted to meet right away because we became so curious about each other.

Dudi is a Computer Engineer. He is very nice, smart and charming, and he captivated my heart right on the first date. Fortunately he felt exactly the same about me. We dated for about 8 months. At Passover, he fell to his knees and asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes!

I’m so in love and extremely happy, and there is no need to mention my parents’ feelings. They are in heaven over my perfect Jewish match.

Many many thanks to Ilana and Dorit who helped and supported me all the way.

I already recommended to two of my friends at work to register at “Global Match” because I knew they’d get the most devoted service.

Thanks again and we’ll see you at the wedding!!

Irit came to the U.S. when she was very young, following her childhood sweetheart who decided to leave Israel and try his luck in America, where they say “Anything is Possible”.

She was very much in love and very young, only 24 years old. She packed all her belongings, said good bye to her family and friends, and went after her boyfriend David to the other side of the world.

Irit eventually found a good job as a secretary at a moving company. She made very good money. David also found success in starting his own business.

After a few years, although both Irit and David had achieved success in America, they also discovered that their love for each other had disappeared. After many years and many travels together, they decided to separate.

Irit was 31 years old when she found herself alone without any close friends or relatives, as she had spent most of her time at work. She could not avoid the terrible feeling that life was passing her by.

One day she picked up an ad for a Jewish Matchmaking Service for people interested in marriage.

She couldn’t help thinking: “There’s nothing to lose, I think I should give it a try”.

When she came to meet us she was very impressed when we explained how we work. She registered without hesitation.

She met several guys over a short period of time she met several guys. All of them were interested in her and were interested in getting to know her better, but the click wasn’t there for her. She was looking for someone to be together with forever.

After 3 months of dating, she met Sharon. It was love at first sight!

They moved in together only a month after they met. Four months later Irit found out she was pregnant.

That was the greatest joy of all. The family of both sides came all the way from Israel to celebrate a wedding and a “Brit Milah” for their first born baby Liad.

Today Sharon and Irit are very happy parents. They found their happiness thanks to Irit’s brave decision to register to our Matchmaking Service.

So hey, what are you waiting for?

Pick up the phone to set up a meeting that could change your life!

Shalev, an energetic salesperson, registered at “Global Match” two years ago.

Miki, a kindergarten teacher, registered with us a year ago.

Since joining My Global Match, Shalev met over 40 women. Yet almost none of them was the type he was looking for. When Miki registered and started dating, Shalev was the first she met.

The magic was there from the first moment they saw each other.

After only two dates they both called me and asked to put their service on hold because they wanted to give the new relationship a chance.

Another day Miki called. With a laughing voice she said “You told me it takes time to find the right match, and here I found him on my first date through your service. Am I really that irregular?”

Then I replied “You can ask Shalev, I’m sure he thinks you are an irregular woman”.

It took only three months for Shalev to ask Miki to marry him. You guessed right, she said yes!

It was a very large, beautiful wedding with family and friends who came to celebrate with the happy couple.

We, ilana and Dorit, wish them lots and lots of happiness, a successful marriage and many many children!

Amen.

I became widowed two years ago. My wife Yafah and I were together for over 50 years. I felt so lonely and scared when she left. I had retired only two years before her death, with the hope that we could finally begin to enjoy life and travel the world. When Yafah died I became so miserable. Every night I prayed and asked God to join her.

We had no children. Also, our good friends had become older and less social over the years. After 50 years of love and companionship, I suddenly found myself with no one to share my life with. I was lost and alone; a man without a defined place in the world.

Then one day I saw a “Global Match” ad in the newspaper. My first reaction was, “I don’t want another woman. I don’t know how to behave with a woman.” When I was young everything was different. I also assumed that there were no women who’d want a man approaching the age of 70. I disregarded the paper, but I found myself thinking constantly about how I want to find a nice woman. To travel with her, share my life with her. And most of all, I didn’t want to be so alone anymore.

It took me another two weeks and many sleepless nights before I dared to pick up the phone. It was much easier than I thought. On the phone, Dorit was so patient and funny. After we arranged a meeting at their office, I felt like was going to meet new friends, not for an intimidating interview. I wasn’t disappointed.

I met Ilana and Dorit at their warm and homey office. The conversation was filled with lots of laughter and a feeling of good friendship. We all agreed I was a complete novice in the dating area. They told me all about the process and I found out it wasn’t as bad as I thought. I was even very excited by the idea of meeting new people. My requirements were not complicated. I asked for a healthy woman age 60-70, who was in good shape, full of “Joie De Vivre”, intelligent and fun to be with.

I registered and immediately became very excited.

I dated for 5 months and met 10 women. It was difficult at first, because none of them was like my wife Yafah. But I was optimistic. I wanted to believe there was a good reason for me to live. I even could sleep at night.

Then I met Sarah. She reminded me so much of my Yafah, it was really scary. She also lost her husband for a heart disease and had spent over 10 years alone.

We talked for hours about life and being alone. About what we lost, what we lack. It didn’t take too long for us to discover that we didn’t want to say good bye.

Sarah invited me for Shabbat dinner with her children and grandchildren. I found myself surrounded by a loving family and lots of smiles and laughter. To my surprise I enjoyed every minute of it.

At the same weekend we went for a walk on the beach. For the first time I kissed another woman, not my beloved Yafah. I felt remorse, but I knew deep inside that if my beautiful Yafah up there saw me, she would wish me luck and want me to be happy.

Today Sarah and I travel the world together. There are difficult moments, but I know that life must go on. I’m glad to be part of a loving couple once again, sharing the good and bad times together as one. We know that many good years are waiting for us, together.

We thank Ilana and Dorit for supporting us all the way.

Moshe and Sarah’le.

One of the questions I am asked often by parents who care about their children’s future is, how can we help our child meet an appropriate match, even if they don’t like the idea of using a matchmaking service?

I say – first of all, are you sure you know enough about your child’s personal life to determine for sure that he/she isn’t involved emotionally with anyone they don’t want you to know about?

For example, your child might be involved with a married person,  a divorcee with children or a non-Jewish person. Or maybe your child is not into it at all because he/she is gay or lesbian.

Are you open enough with your childn to know the true reason that he or she is single? Perhaps it is not only a result of limited social life.

I ask this because on many occasions parents have registered their child to my service and when we called him or her, it turned out he or she wasn’t emotionally available at all. Moreover, she or he has long been in contact with a partner that their parents probably did not approve of or even know about.

However, if you are certain that your child is emotionally available and wants to meet someone, then it’s a perfect time to begin to “probe” what she or he thinks about dating through a matchmaking service.

You might be surprised to find out that they are happy about the idea and are willing they are to cooperate, especially when they know that you’re paying for the service, not them.

If you succeed in convincing your child to make an appointment, I will meet with them in person and explain how the matchmaking process works. I will first learn what type of people your child finds attractive and then describe what type of matches I will introduce her/him to. Once the registration interview is complete, we are set to go.

However, there are a few kids who might be offended by your suggestion to set them up on a date and might respond “what am I a cripple or disabled? Do you really think I need help?  I can find my match by myself,  I don’t need anyone’s help!”

If your child responds in this way, you can say: Thank G-d you’re not cripple or disabled, but your social networks & activities are limited around you. You are not exposed to the right people, people serious enough who are looking for marriage, not just to go out for casual dates.

If they refuse to make an appointment, which often happens, don’t mention it again to your child. Make contact with one of their good friends and tell them about your plan. Ask them to be the contact between me and your child. You’ll be surprised how easily your child will agree to go on a date with a friend’s recommendation rather than a mother’s or father’s.

If the friend is willing to cooperate, which likely happens, from that moment everything is very simple. We schedule a meeting, you bring pictures of your child and the contact number of the good friend who’s willing to help us. I tell this friend about our plan, and together we make up a “cover story” as for how to introduce a potential match to your child.

Sounds difficult to do? Maybe. But remember this: it will be much more difficult if your daughter or son stays single, or marries someone who is not suitable for them just because of the fear of staying alone.

So……..Come on parents, get to work !

Call me, I’ll be glad to meet with each of you. Together we’ll do everything we can so that next year your son or daughter will be happily married to their Jewish soulmate.

Yours Truly,
ilana Gutman

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