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My friend gave me an article written by a young Jewish school teacher. One day she asked her class the question, “What is true love?”

Initially, not one person responded to her question. Then she said, “I will tell you what love is, and then you can agree or disagree”

So she said “True love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person.” Every child in the room raised his or her hand.

When I read this I thought, this is how all of my adult relatives and friends approach love as well! It’s a physical “feeling”, almost like magic, that hits you when you meet your soulmate.

But is this true? I don’t think so. True Love is more than simply a physical reaction, it’s also a very complex emotional and physcological experience.

I wonder if this is why there are so many casual one-night-stands where “true love” sweeps over two people one moment, and then completely disappears when they realize they have nothing in common.

If you believe that there is more to Jewish Love than a momentary sensation that is there one moment and gone the next, I encourage you to contact me.

At My Global Match we believe that true love is a multi-dimensional emotion, based on a hundred different factors, from looks, intelligence, honesty, humor, charm and much more. We thoroughly interview our clients so that we can set them up on dates that can last a lifetime, rather than a moment.

This is why I spend hours with each of my clients before I send them out on dates. I want to know who they truly are, so that I can pair them with a Jewish single that be a true match in more than just the physical sense. The Jewish matches that I arrange are built on True Love that has a stable foundation, where both people truly know one another, and the love is more than just a feeling – it’s a way of life.

If you are considering joining a Jewish matchmaking or dating service, please give me a call. I would love to chat with you about what you are looking for and explain how My Global Match can help you achieve your true dreams in finding a Jewish Soulmate.

Looking forward to speaking with each and every one of you,

ilana

A few weeks ago I had an intense discussion with a dear friend about the meaning of success and failure.

My friend claimed that if you don’t reach the maximum of your capabilities you will never be successful. For example: A Doctor at a hospital that realizes he or she will never be a professor or department manager. A Lawyer that aspires to be appointed a judge, but never achieves this dream. An army officer that yearns to reach the rank of colonel but does not. These people will live with a sense of missed opportunity all their lives.

The discussion between me and my friend became even more intense. Can a person who has reached the highest level of their career, such as CEO, Commander in Chief, President or Prime Minister, be happier than a manager, secretary, a salesperson or a nurse?

I claimed that if you love your work, make a good living and still have time for personal interests, such as finding the time to spend with your spouse, your children and your close family, you are much more successful than a senior manager who works 24/7 and makes significantly more money. Often, financially successful people have little or no room for quality time in their lives, because they are constantly working. I gave an example of famous celebrities. Most of them don’t have any spare time for their friends or family.

The debate lasted all evening. Needless to say each of us stayed in his mind.

The problem is that society has become more and more materialistic. Sadly, people are measured by their economic situation. If you’re rich, that means you are a very successful person. No matter how you’ve made your fortune.

For an example: a person who owned many properties was considered successful. But he had lost everything during the recession period. Is he a loser now? Isn’t he the same person you wanted to be friends with, before the crisis?

Are people measured by their contribution to their immediate environment ? By their good heart, generosity, and their ability to be real true friends? Are they measured by their ability to give good advice or a nice word, when someone needs it ? Or are they mainly measured by what they can contribute to others because of their economic situation?

I give up!

I just hope that every one of you appreciates his or herself well, because that is what matters the most.

If you love what you do, if you’re with a spouse you love, if you have children and you can provide them with all their needs like love, security and peace of mind, for me you are the biggest winner.

In case you are not this person, it’s not the end of the world. As long as you are healthy, you are still capable to make a change in your life.

May we all have a wonderful year. May we achieve all the goals we have set for ourselves. May we all believe that there is a winner in each and every one of us!

ilana Gutman

Rina came to the U.S., following her childhood sweetheart who decided to leave Israel and try his luck in America, where they say “Anything is Possible”. She was very much in love and very young, only 24 years old. She packed all her belongings, said good bye to her family and friends, and went after her boyfriend David to the other side of the world.

After a while, Rina started to work as a secretary at a moving company. She made very good money. David had a chance to open his own business.

A few years passed, as did their love, so they decided to separate.

Rina was already 31 years old. She was alone without any close friends or relatives, and spent most of her time at work. She couldn’t avoid the terrible feeling that life was passing by her.

One day she found an ad of a Matchmaking Service for marriage. She couldn’t help thinking: “There’s nothing to lose, I think I should give it a try”.

When she came to meet us she was very impressed when we explained how we work. She registered without hesitation.

Over a short period of time she met several guys. All of them were interested in her and they behaved very nicely. But the click wasn’t there for her. She was looking for a relationship that would last a lifetime.

After 3 months of dating people, she went on a date with Jonathan. It was love at first sight!

They moved in together only a month after they met. Four months later Rina found out she was pregnant.

This was the greatest joy of all. The family from both sides came all the way from Israel to celebrate the wedding and a “Brit Milah” for their first born baby Arieh.

Today Jonathan and Rina are very happy parents. They found their happiness thanks to Rina’s brave decision to register to our Matchmaking Service.

So what are you waiting for?

Pick up the phone to set up a meeting that will probably change your life!

Hayim and Rayah

Hayim came to “Global Match” two years ago. He was 55 years old widower with two children, a 10 year old son and an 8 year old daughter. He wasn’t looking for love, he honesstly didn’t think he would ever find it again. But he wanted his children to grow up with a mother and felt that he owed it to them to start dating again.  He signed up with My Global Match and hoped to at least find a nice person to share his life with. Romance was not at all on his radar.

Rayah signed up for our service at the same time. She is a 48 year old psychologist who had never been married and had given up on findng her soulmate.  She really wanted to have children, but thought it was a distant dream for her at this point in her life  She signed up for our service as a final attempt.  All she wanted was to find a life-time loving partner “Someone to watch TV with at nights, someone to go out for dinner with, once in a while”, as she said

When I introduced Rayah and Hayim, I thought to myself “they’re a good fit. They have the same world view.” I strongly felt some unexpected surprises were waiting for them

On their first meeting Hayim was a bit jaded and told Rayah that he didn’t want to waste any time on romantic dates and  nights out. He she suggested that she meet his children. If they’d get along, he would pursue something with her. They would take it from there and see.

Three months after their first meeting, I recieved a letter in the mail. I hadn’t heard from Rayah after their fourth date.  I assumed everything was going well because I usually speak to my single clients every week.

I was right. Love had found both of them. The letter was from Rayah writing about their wonderful romance.

Coincidentally, one night almost two years later I went to a movie with my husband. In front of us there was an elderly couple who kept cuddling and kissing. When the movie ended and the lights went on, there I noticed them. No other than Rayah and Hayim, who were quite happy, like school kids in love. I turned to them and introduced them to my husband as my friends. They asked us to join them for coffee, I said it’d be our pleasure.

During the evening they told me about how the first year was difficult and frustrating. All the problems they had in communicating with each other and his children. They told us about his ex-wife’s family who criticized her every step and move. And it took time for the children to get used to the situation, to understand and accept Rayah as a mother.

Rayah told me that Hayim means the world to her. His kids compensated her for not having children of her own. During the first year his good heart, wisdom and sensitivity made her fall in love with him. He saw the dedication, sacrifice and love that she lavished on his children. From sad and nervous children they became happy and confident. This made him fall in love with her to the utmost.

They smiled at us and admitted “this wasn’t love at first sight, but this love will last forever!”.

We were so happy for them, and we all decided to stay in touch and get together more.

On our way home my husband (who’s not involved in my business) said to me “Wow dear, you did it big time, good for you!”.

2010 will be a very special year for me. This year I will turn 50, which means that I will be closing 30 years of hard work. All I hope and wish for myself is another 30 wonderful years of successful work and fulfilment.

All throughout my life, even when I was in my 20s, I have never felt content with the status quota. I’ve never felt like “This is it, I’ve found peace at last”. I have always felt that I had so much to establish in life. My goal has been to conquer the world and make the best out of life. As I get older, I want to explore everything there is to know. When I turn 60 or 70, I won’t feel that my best years are already past, and that all there is left to do is retire, spend the time with my grandchildren or play cards with friends.

Whenever people ask me when is the right time to retire and travel the world, I always say I live a good life right now, I don’t need to retire for that. Neither my children, nor my husband or my parents ever stopped me from achieving a goal. I married at age 20, went to college during the evenings, started my business in Israel and then my family and I travelled the world. I did all that and raised my children with the help of a wonderful and supporting husband.

Even if people will not be praising my accomplishments years after I die, the most important for me is to know that I explored and fulfilled everything in life. I have had the opportunity to love, breathe, feel pain, be excited, explore, and I have all the right reasons to get up in the morning. That is most significant!

I consider my biggest achievement to be the love I have found with my husband and the beautiful family we have created.

For many people, the start of life is connected to the start of a relationship or a family. If you have reached a point in your life where materially, it appears that you have everything, but romantically and emotionally you are dissatisfied, then perhaps it’s time to do something about it and join a Jewish Matchmaking service.

My Global Match is expanding locations, so that no matter where you are in the United States, we can help you find your perfect Jewish match.

Starting March 2010, we will have offices in Florida and New York.

If you are interested in making a big change in your life for 2010 or if you have single Jewish friends who are looking for a serious relationship and eventually marriage and children, it’s time to tell them about us. The first 100 Jewish singles at each branch will be registered FOR FREE. New singles can be any age, from 20 to 100. Our only requirement is that every person who signs up be serious and decent people who sincerely wish to get married.

I certainly hope that each and every one of you have big plans and dreams for 2010. The only way to achieve goals and fulfill dreams is by making decisions. Nobody stops you from fulfilling your dreams. The only person who can stop you is yourself.

Think about what’s important to you. Think about what you wish for. Prepare a plan and go for it in full speed ahead. I know that’s what I will do.

Good Luck to all of us. 2010 will be an amazing year and I hope that all our dreams would come true.

Amen!

HAPPY NEW YEAR

ilana Gutman

No matter how successful you are – if you have an amazing job you love and you have best of friends – If you’re not married or at least in a relationship leading to marriage, it is easy to feel as if you failed in life. Or even worse, your mother feels that SHE has failed, and she drops the blame on you.

Marriage is often considered to be the Ultimate Proof of Success!

As the old saying goes, “It is not good for a man (or woman) to be alone”.

If you are single, you already know that being alone is not fun at all. Regardless of societal and family expectations, when there is no one to share every day excitement with, life can seem mundane and boring.

How long can you feel like like a third wheel to friends who have their own families and daily frustrations and worries? Also, it’s certainly not very much fun to go back to an empty house day after day. Especially not after meeting with friends, when you want to end up the day in the arms of a special someone, and you find yourself in the arms of your household pet.

For every Bachelor/ Bachelorette there are some difficult moments in life that really aren’t pleasant to deal with. One of them is when you arrive to a wedding – someone else’s of course. That’s when you experience the mercy looks of everyone, and the repeating sayings – “next time it will be you.”

The most difficult times with no doubt, are the holidays. In Israel most people are dealing with two major holidays: Passover and Rosh Hashanah. Here in America, we also celebrate the Non-Jewish holidays.

On one hand it’s nice to have a good reason to celebrate, but on the other hand the holidays season is tough, because it’s all about social gatherings and/or family reunions. That’s when the feeling of loneliness is more focused, simply because it’s so unpleasant to spend the holidays with no spouse.

Couples go on romantic vacations & camping trips, couples have their own private world and connect more easily with other couples. This isn’t the only reason to find a mate, but you must admit the sense of loneliness that exists already inside, is increasing more and more during the holiday season – for both men and women.

Every single woman has something in common with the opening scene of the movie “Bridget Jones’s Diary”. It’s when she comes home for Christmas, to a mother who has a single man to fix her up with, and a sweater she would never have thought of wearing. It’s the questions of her horny uncle or everyone’s needing to fix her up. These are the situations which bring up the feeling as if something is wrong with her. A feeling of total discomfort with a desire to run away as far as possible.

When traveling to Israel for the holidays, you almost always encounter the patronizing looks of pity as if asking: No way! Are you still alone? What could be wrong with you? Won’t you please do your mother/ father/ grandmother/ aunt a favor and get married already…?

When staying in the U.S, you are a “fallout”. You are welcome and always wanted, but still a “fallout” at celebrations of other families. Because even though they love you and accept you, you are still at the mercy of strangers’ invitations, because you are alone.

Fact is we can’t help it. Our society is a mirror reflecting what we really feel – and we can’t run away from it. Because if we wouldn’t mind being alone, we wouldn’t pay attention to what society or our family has to say about our personal situation.

So aren’t you tired of being single? Have you realized that you’re still single only because you chose to, and you can chose otherwise? Isn’t it so clear that you’re willing to do ANYTHING to make a change?

You know, finding a partner is a project like any other project! So set yourself up and go to the “Home Depot” of Jewish matchmaking – My Global Match. Stop making yourself miserable by saying “It’s not meant to be”. Go for it all the way!

Stop thinking “Me? Matchmaking Service?”. People are fixing you up all the time anyway, wouldn’t it be better to do it with a professional?

Pick up the phone right now and call ilana Gutman at (818) 788-8360 so that next holiday you’ll be “Couple”,not “Single.”

You deserve happiness!

Do we really have to avoid subscribing to a Matchmaking Service when we know our financial situation doesn’t allow us to spend this kind of money?

In the last few months many singles are telling me how lonely they are, how scared they are being alone and how afraid they are just from the thought of growing old alone. The thought of missing the great pleasure of being a parent terrifies many singles.

On the other hand, they also tell me how difficult their financial situation is. They say that there is no way that they can afford paying for a Matchmaking Service.

I turn to them and ask: What is your priority?

When you go to a posh hair salon, buy new designer clothes, or have dinner in an expensive restaurant, do you feel happier and more content? Most people do because they feel that they are investing in themselves.

Investing in a matchmaking service is one of the greatest investments you can make in yourself and your future.

Loneliness is one of the most difficult mental states. You feel you don’t belong to anyone and you don’t have anyone to trust. You feel unsuccessful because you have no one with whom to share your accomplishments. You feel unattractive to others, and you are easily convinced that nobody could love you.

The worst feeling is (G-d forbid!), that you don’t have anything to live for.
Whether it is you or someone close to you that has these signs of distress, then Matchmaking Service is definitely not just another a luxury expense. You have to face the fact there might be a problem and you owe it to yourself and your loved one to solve it.

If you are honestly happy being single and wish to remain that way – and there are many people who love their solitude – then you do not need Matchmaking Service.

If you wake up in the morning thinking how wonderful life is and feel like you have a rich social life filled with interesting people and that you have many opportunities for satisfying relationships whenever you choose, then you also do not need a matchmaking service. Just make sure that you are being true to yourself in this regard.

However, if your day-today reality is unhappy, if you feel increasingly isolated and alone with each passing day, or if you live in a place where you rarely meet new people that you could be interested in, then it’s time to contact “Global Match”.

I have a large variety of high-quality, educated and professional Jewish singles, who just like you, are looking for true love & commitment.

My clients are people that have made finding their true soulmate their #1 priority. They have temporarily given up other luxury items, because they realized that this is much more important to them than going on a cruise, buying another expensive pair of shoes or a fancy dress. They decided to take it into to their own hands because, although they know G-d is there for them, they also know that exciting things only happen with we first help ourselves.

In regard to payment, there’s no reason for you to worry about that. I’ll make sure that each & everyone of you will be able to pay according to her/his personal situation. We’ll make a payment plan that’s right for you!

Hoping to hear from you soon,

Yours,
ilana Gutman

The holiday season is one of the most difficult times of the year for singles.

Feelings of loneliness can become more intense when surrounded by married family members and their children. Single men and women feel even more isolated around this time of year.

Inevitably, there will be that one sarcastic family member who raises his or her glass and makes a blessing like “we wish that this coming year will bring our single ______ his / her perfect match. Amen.”

The sense of expectation from family members makes it even harder for unmarried people to feel comfortable about being alone. Family members constantly ask single relatives questions like “So, are you dating anyone?” “Are you thinking about marriage?” “Are children in the plans for you?”

Even if the single person is successful and educated, questions like this can easily make him or her feel like a loser, especially when surrounded by happily married family members and their children.

These feelings are even more pronounced when you are separated from your immediate family and are spending the holidays with extended relatives.

If you have found yourself in this situation one too many holiday seasons, isn’t about time that you did something that could bring about a change in your life?

You might have never imagined that a Matchmaking service could be one approach to finding a potential spouse. But the “How” isn’t important; it’s the end-goal that matters – “the ends justify the means”.

My service, My Global Match, matches single Jewish professionals with like-minded individuals that are interested in long-term relationships, and eventually marriage. My Jewish Matchmaking service is about much more than just casual online dating without commitment. It is about finding your soul mate – a partner for a lifetime.

I cannot guarantee that if you sign up with my service that you will have a spouse by the coming holidays. But I can assure you that if you are persistent, outgoing and open minded about meeting a lot of new people, in the end you WILL meet your soul mate. With God’s help, and mine, you will celebrate many happy holidays with a loving Jewish partner in your own home, surrounded by cherished family members and good friends.

Make a change in your life this holiday season and start by contacting me to set up a non-obligation appointment.

With Greetings for a Happy Holidays
Yours truly,
Ilana Gutman

My name is Sigal. I signed up for Global Match in March of 2008. When I joined My Global Match, I was in my early 40’s and wanted to find a relationship with someone who really wanted marriage and children. I had become weary of regular internet dating sites, and was usually disappointed by the men I met. It seemed that I only met men looking for a casual experience or hook-up. I wanted something real and long-lasting. I decided to take one last chance with Ilana’s Match Making service after one of my friends was successful with My Global Match.

I took the first step and contacted Ilana and Dorit for a free consultation. I knew I had made the right decision once I stepped inside the office. Ilana explained that My Global Match is only for people who are interested in serious relationships. She does not sign up people who just want to date without any intention of becoming serious. Ilana also meets each and every client in person, which guarantees that all the information about the client is completely accurate. After the free consultation I was more than pleased and immediately signed up to meet my perfect match.

During the first month with Global Match I met 5 different men who all matched my requests, but unfortunately the chemistry was not there. I spoke with Ilana and Dorit after each date and told them my honest impressions. It was as if I quickly gained two new best friends after I signed up with My Global Match – I was speaking to either Ilana or Dorit on a weekly basis, telling them in-depth about each of the men they matched me with.

At the end of April, Dorit called and was confident that she had the right match for me.

Dorit was right. Date number 6 was love at first site when I was introduced to Yoram. The next day after the initial meeting both Yoram and I called Dorit to let her know how pleased we were and did not want to go on any other dates for now.

A few months after our first date, Yoram asked me to marry him before the year is up. Now, more than a year later we are so happy and cannot thank Global Match enough for introducing us.

Thank You Global Match….

Yoram & Sigal

I know itʼs true that 26 is still considered young and that I have the entire world before me. However, I’m not the type of woman who sits at home waiting for things to happen. When I decided a few years ago that it was time for me to meet my match and settle down, nothing could dissuade me from achieving this dream.

To give you a little history about myself; I came to the U.S after serving the Israeli Defense Forces for 2 years. When I first arrived to California, I stayed with my uncle and aunt who have lived here for more than 20 years.

My first job in the U.S. was as a waitress. This paid me enough money to rent a nice apartment with a
friend in Sherman Oaks. I settled very easily into my new city and had enough money to live comfortably. At that time I also got to know a few Israeli guys who came to eat at my restaurant.

I went out with my new friends, had fun and met my first boyfriend in the U.S. – Boaz. We were together
for two years until he decided to return to Israel for University. The separation was painful but it
was clear to me that I wanted to stay here. I also realized that I had no future with Boaz, who always
dreamed about studying medicine. He announced plain and simple that over the next decade his career
would be the number one priority for him.

After two and a half years I needed a change. I quit my restaurant job and found work as a secretary and sales
associate at a construction company. In the evening I studied Accounting and English.
I was 25 years old, made good money, loved my life in LA, but still felt lonely nevertheless. I decided it
was time to pull myself together and find a partner for life.

At first I told all my friends and relatives that if they knew a nice guy around the age of 30,
whoʼs looking for a serious relationship, they should give him my phone number.

I met several nice guys, but there was no “click”. Also, I did not like that all my friends had to know exactly
what happened with everyone I met. They always tried to convince me to give it a chance even when
I knew there wasnʼt any possibility.

Just when I thought I was running out of options, I signed up for Jdate. It was nice at first and I met lots of men. But I discovered that many of them are just looking for casual fun, and were not interested in commitment and marriage.

I decided to call Ilana Gutman of My Global Match, whose ads I had being seeing for a while.

I arranged an appointment with no obligation. I wanted to know what made her service so different from all of the other dating websites.

Ilana explained that there were countless ways and opportunities to meet “the one”. But the difference between guys who sign up for online dating and her clients is their level of seriousness and their desire to have a
family, without games or pretense. Also, there are dozens of nice people you can find online, but there
are many more crooks, liars, and even married men whoʼre just looking for an adventure.
Ilana convinced me that if a guy pays thousands of dollars to register, heʼs indeed serious about it
and wants a wife & family.

I signed up. At first I was not very pleased. In 3 months I met 12 guys. True, they were serious, they
were nice, but there was no “click” and I almost gave up. Ilana and Dorit calmed me and said I have
to be patient. Iʼll meet the right one, all I needed to do was keep dating people and believe.

Then one day Ilana called saying she had found “him”, the one of my dreams. I was very skeptical and refused to believe. But Ilana insisted that I give it my best and smile.

It happened. The date was amazing!

We didnʼt want to go home. We stayed at the restaurant until they turned down the lights. Before I got
home that night there was a message from him saying he already missed me. I felt exactly the same.

The connection between us was so strong and certain, that we didn’t wait very long before we started planning our wedding. Now, only a few years later, it is like we have known each other our entire lives.

So thank you so much Ilana and Dorit for cheering me up and for not letting me give up. I love
you both always, Peninah.