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Jewish wedding customs are sacred rituals that have been practiced in the Jewish faith for centuries. Each stage of the wedding has important meaning and symbolism.

In Jewish marriages, the process is divided into two parts – the “Erusin” (betrothal) and “Nissuin” (establishment of the marriage). Historically, these two parts were separated by at least one month, but in modern times both parts are typically done at the same time.

Here is an overview of the different stages of the Jewish wedding ceremony for Jewish singles that are preparing for this special union:

1. The Chuppah – The Chuppah is a canopy that the Jewish couple passes under during the ceremony – the canopy represents the new home that the Jewish couple will inhabit once they are married, which will be protected by God’s love and guidance.

2. The Seven Circles – Once the couple have passed through the Chuppah, the bride and her family circle the groom seven times. This symbolizes a seven fold marital bond between the bride, groom and the respective families. The number is very important in Jewish culture, as it represents the 7 days that the earth was created by God.

3. The Ketubah – This is one of the most important aspects of the Jewish wedding ceremony. The Ketubah is the contract between husband and wife, akin to a prenuptial agreement, which is read aloud in Aramic during the ceremony. The document is based on the Torah and outlines the duties of the husband to his wife, and also extols the virtues and elevated status that the wife occupies in the marriage. The contract also explains what will happen in the unlikely event of a divorce between the Jewish couple or the death of the husband.

In ancient times, Rabbis insisted on the Ketubah in order to protect the wife. The Ketubah replaced the “Mohai”, which was the price paid for the bride by the groom. In the event the marriage was dissolved, the Ketubah defined the amount the husband was required to pay the wife.

4. The Seven Blessings – The seven blessings, or “Sheva Brahot” is the conclusion of the Jewish wedding ceremony. Again, the significance of the number seven is prominent. The blessings are typically recited by the Rabbi, but sometimes guests are selected to recite the blessings.

5. The Breaking of the Glass – After all of the above rites are completed, the groom crushes a glass or light-bulb under his foot and the guests say “Mazel Tov” or “Good Luck”.

Being Jewish is a different experience depending on who you are and where you live. Judaism is as much a culture as it is a religious faith.

As far as marriage and dating is concerned, Jewish people have particularly unique thinking. Unmarried Jewish singles have a lot of pressure regarding marriage and dating. Jewish parents are usually obsessed with the idea of their children finding the perfect Jewish match.

Many Jews feel very sensitive about the subject of marriage and dating after World War II. Because so many innocent Jewish lives were lost, there was a big pressure on Jewish singles to only have romantic relationships and marriage with other Jewish singles.

One would think that there is a huge pool of Jewish singles to choose from. Wrong.

For example, lots of young Jewish students go to Jesuit or Catholic universities. It’s a strange phenomena, but many of these schools have top law and medical programs, making them very attractive for young Jewish students.

It’s very difficult to meet Jewish singles outside of family, friends, and school.

This is where matchmaking comes into the picture. And notice I said “matchmaking” and not “dating”, as most Jewish singles are looking for solid, long term relationships that will eventually lead to marriage with a Jewish soul mate. Online dating is a more casual activity, really intended for recreation rather than starting serious relationships. Not to say that there aren’t Jewish singles who have met their partners online, but it is much more difficult and time consuming to meet quality Jewish singles this way.

Because of all the reasons mentioned above, Jewish matchmaking services have become even more important in Jewish culture.

Services like My Global Match help young, old, unmarried and widowed Jewish singles find a large, highly qualified pool of Jewish singles to choose from.

ilana Gutman, the founder and CEO, personally screens and interviews each candidate before he or she enrolls in the service. The service My Global Match provides is personalized and extensive, and ilana has an in-depth interview with each candidate before they sign up to determine that she can successfully match them with the Jewish single of their dreams before they sign up.

ilana screens each person to make sure there physical description is accurate, that they are successfully employed, and that they do not have a dangerous past. This is what differentiates matchmaking services from online dating. When you meet someone online, you have no idea if they are really who they say they are. You have to first take the chance in meeting them in person and hope for the best.

With My Global Match Jewish matchmaking however, you know exactly who you are meeting in advance. You know how they look, what they do for a living, where they were born, what goals and expectations they have in life, and that they are serious about finding their Jewish soul mate.

1. The more people I go out with, even if they are not Jewish, the better chance I have of meeting Mr./Ms. Right.

Many people think that dating is a numbers game, and it’s all about “getting out there” and making yourself available. Well, for many Jewish singles, this ends up in dating burnout, especially if the person is also dating non-jews.

It’s better to date a few exceptional Jewish singles than dozens of people who sound “interesting” but will never turn into anything real. You’re looking for one lifelong partner, not 100 cups of coffee.

2. The smartest and most attractive people marry first.

This is absolutely false. There are many amazing people who, because of the demands of work or family, simply cannot find the time to focus on finding their Jewish soulmate. It is for this reason that many successful people turn to the assistance of a Jewish matchmaker when looking to find a serious partner.

3. All good Jewish men and women are taken.

WRONG. There are millions of wonderful Jewish singles out there, it just take time and skill in meeting them. Again, this is the reason many Jewish singles use a Jewish matchmaking service to help them find other like minded Jewish people to date.

We live in a huge, wonderful world. It just takes a bit of maneuvering to meet the perfect Jewish soulmate.

4. It doesn’t matter if your family and friends and family like the person you’re dating. You understand him or her, and your opinion is the only one that matters.

This is especially false in the Jewish culture. The opinion of family, friends and the synagogue are all very important. If your potential spouse does not get along with the most important people in your life, how does your relationship have hope of long-term survival? More importantly, how will this affect the children that you have with your spouse?

In today’s super-charged modern lifestyles, Jewish singles can get so caught up their daily lives, that they miss the truly important aspects of life, like love and family. For many young Jewish singles, and for singles in general, it’s difficult to find the time and space in life for a special relationship. The demands of work and the distractions of living in a big city can make it easy to overlook what is truly important; finding a true Jewish love to share a life with and start a family.

For Jewish singles who have been hurt or betrayed by past relationships, getting back into the dating game is even more difficult.

ilana Gutman’s Jewish matchmaking service can be an invaluable resource for people looking to find a serious long-term relationship, and eventually marriage, with their Jewish soulmate.

My Global Match helps Jewish singles meet a selective pool of educated, well-employed and serious Jewish professionals. ilana Gutman spends hours carefully interviewing and getting to know her prospective clients, so that she can match them with Jewish singles that share similar tastes, hobbies, and family goals.

It is a comforting thought that Jewish singles, whether they are divorced, widowed, in their early twenties or still single in their middle fifties, no longer feel that they are left to their own devices. For those who are tired of Internet dating and want a more personalized, premiere service, My Global Match is an ideal option.

Call ilana today at (818) 788-8360 to schedule a free consultation.

I was recently reading an article in aish.com written by a 68 year old Jewish woman who said that she gave up on the hope of romance at age 30. After a number of rejections in her 20s, she simply could not bear the thought of being disappointed ever again. So for thirty she has remained alone with no hope of finding her true Jewish soulmate.

This woman wrote that when she was young, she often wished her father, who was a professor, would bring home a nice boy for her meet. She hated the dating game, and never felt that she truly achieved real intimacy with the men she casually dated. She felt that the men she met only wanted physical intimacy, without taking the trouble to really get to know her as a person.

She writes that “in today’s fast and shallow Facebook world, so many relationships — even without physical intimacy — are coming to resemble…emptiness more and more. There can be a kind of promiscuity without physical contact. It occurs wherever people “get to know” one another without coming to care for one another.”

For all of those people who can relate to this woman’s feelings and experiences, I want to tell you that there is hope.

Every single person on this Earth deserves to love and be loved. Also, every person deserves to be loved for who they are, without any false pretenses or illusions.

With my Jewish Dating Service, My Global Match, my goal is not to set you up on a casual date that will last for a few weeks or months. My goal is to match you with someone that can lead to the long-term goal of marriage and children. There is none of the “emptiness” that the woman above describes in the Jewish matches that I arrange. My service is not a meat market like many online dating sites. It’s not about the quantity of dates – it’s about the quality of people that you will meet through my service.

Don’t get me wrong, I can’t guarantee that every date I match you with will be “The One”. But I can promise you that I will closely listen when you describe what you are looking for in a partner, and I will find potential Jewish singles that can complement your likes and dislikes, and who will want to spend time with you getting to know the real you.

So if you ever ask your self “Should I Give Up on Love?”, the answer is 100%, absolutely NO! The one for you is out there. Call me so that we can discover your destiny together.

Love,

ilana

My friend gave me an article written by a young Jewish school teacher. One day she asked her class the question, “What is true love?”

Initially, not one person responded to her question. Then she said, “I will tell you what love is, and then you can agree or disagree”

So she said “True love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person.” Every child in the room raised his or her hand.

When I read this I thought, this is how all of my adult relatives and friends approach love as well! It’s a physical “feeling”, almost like magic, that hits you when you meet your soulmate.

But is this true? I don’t think so. True Love is more than simply a physical reaction, it’s also a very complex emotional and physcological experience.

I wonder if this is why there are so many casual one-night-stands where “true love” sweeps over two people one moment, and then completely disappears when they realize they have nothing in common.

If you believe that there is more to Jewish Love than a momentary sensation that is there one moment and gone the next, I encourage you to contact me.

At My Global Match we believe that true love is a multi-dimensional emotion, based on a hundred different factors, from looks, intelligence, honesty, humor, charm and much more. We thoroughly interview our clients so that we can set them up on dates that can last a lifetime, rather than a moment.

This is why I spend hours with each of my clients before I send them out on dates. I want to know who they truly are, so that I can pair them with a Jewish single that be a true match in more than just the physical sense. The Jewish matches that I arrange are built on True Love that has a stable foundation, where both people truly know one another, and the love is more than just a feeling – it’s a way of life.

If you are considering joining a Jewish matchmaking or dating service, please give me a call. I would love to chat with you about what you are looking for and explain how My Global Match can help you achieve your true dreams in finding a Jewish Soulmate.

Looking forward to speaking with each and every one of you,

ilana

A few weeks ago I had an intense discussion with a dear friend about the meaning of success and failure.

My friend claimed that if you don’t reach the maximum of your capabilities you will never be successful. For example: A Doctor at a hospital that realizes he or she will never be a professor or department manager. A Lawyer that aspires to be appointed a judge, but never achieves this dream. An army officer that yearns to reach the rank of colonel but does not. These people will live with a sense of missed opportunity all their lives.

The discussion between me and my friend became even more intense. Can a person who has reached the highest level of their career, such as CEO, Commander in Chief, President or Prime Minister, be happier than a manager, secretary, a salesperson or a nurse?

I claimed that if you love your work, make a good living and still have time for personal interests, such as finding the time to spend with your spouse, your children and your close family, you are much more successful than a senior manager who works 24/7 and makes significantly more money. Often, financially successful people have little or no room for quality time in their lives, because they are constantly working. I gave an example of famous celebrities. Most of them don’t have any spare time for their friends or family.

The debate lasted all evening. Needless to say each of us stayed in his mind.

The problem is that society has become more and more materialistic. Sadly, people are measured by their economic situation. If you’re rich, that means you are a very successful person. No matter how you’ve made your fortune.

For an example: a person who owned many properties was considered successful. But he had lost everything during the recession period. Is he a loser now? Isn’t he the same person you wanted to be friends with, before the crisis?

Are people measured by their contribution to their immediate environment ? By their good heart, generosity, and their ability to be real true friends? Are they measured by their ability to give good advice or a nice word, when someone needs it ? Or are they mainly measured by what they can contribute to others because of their economic situation?

I give up!

I just hope that every one of you appreciates his or herself well, because that is what matters the most.

If you love what you do, if you’re with a spouse you love, if you have children and you can provide them with all their needs like love, security and peace of mind, for me you are the biggest winner.

In case you are not this person, it’s not the end of the world. As long as you are healthy, you are still capable to make a change in your life.

May we all have a wonderful year. May we achieve all the goals we have set for ourselves. May we all believe that there is a winner in each and every one of us!

ilana Gutman

Rina came to the U.S., following her childhood sweetheart who decided to leave Israel and try his luck in America, where they say “Anything is Possible”. She was very much in love and very young, only 24 years old. She packed all her belongings, said good bye to her family and friends, and went after her boyfriend David to the other side of the world.

After a while, Rina started to work as a secretary at a moving company. She made very good money. David had a chance to open his own business.

A few years passed, as did their love, so they decided to separate.

Rina was already 31 years old. She was alone without any close friends or relatives, and spent most of her time at work. She couldn’t avoid the terrible feeling that life was passing by her.

One day she found an ad of a Matchmaking Service for marriage. She couldn’t help thinking: “There’s nothing to lose, I think I should give it a try”.

When she came to meet us she was very impressed when we explained how we work. She registered without hesitation.

Over a short period of time she met several guys. All of them were interested in her and they behaved very nicely. But the click wasn’t there for her. She was looking for a relationship that would last a lifetime.

After 3 months of dating people, she went on a date with Jonathan. It was love at first sight!

They moved in together only a month after they met. Four months later Rina found out she was pregnant.

This was the greatest joy of all. The family from both sides came all the way from Israel to celebrate the wedding and a “Brit Milah” for their first born baby Arieh.

Today Jonathan and Rina are very happy parents. They found their happiness thanks to Rina’s brave decision to register to our Matchmaking Service.

So what are you waiting for?

Pick up the phone to set up a meeting that will probably change your life!