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Hayim and Rayah

Hayim came to “Global Match” two years ago. He was 55 years old widower with two children, a 10 year old son and an 8 year old daughter. He wasn’t looking for love, he honesstly didn’t think he would ever find it again. But he wanted his children to grow up with a mother and felt that he owed it to them to start dating again.  He signed up with My Global Match and hoped to at least find a nice person to share his life with. Romance was not at all on his radar.

Rayah signed up for our service at the same time. She is a 48 year old psychologist who had never been married and had given up on findng her soulmate.  She really wanted to have children, but thought it was a distant dream for her at this point in her life  She signed up for our service as a final attempt.  All she wanted was to find a life-time loving partner “Someone to watch TV with at nights, someone to go out for dinner with, once in a while”, as she said

When I introduced Rayah and Hayim, I thought to myself “they’re a good fit. They have the same world view.” I strongly felt some unexpected surprises were waiting for them

On their first meeting Hayim was a bit jaded and told Rayah that he didn’t want to waste any time on romantic dates and  nights out. He she suggested that she meet his children. If they’d get along, he would pursue something with her. They would take it from there and see.

Three months after their first meeting, I recieved a letter in the mail. I hadn’t heard from Rayah after their fourth date.  I assumed everything was going well because I usually speak to my single clients every week.

I was right. Love had found both of them. The letter was from Rayah writing about their wonderful romance.

Coincidentally, one night almost two years later I went to a movie with my husband. In front of us there was an elderly couple who kept cuddling and kissing. When the movie ended and the lights went on, there I noticed them. No other than Rayah and Hayim, who were quite happy, like school kids in love. I turned to them and introduced them to my husband as my friends. They asked us to join them for coffee, I said it’d be our pleasure.

During the evening they told me about how the first year was difficult and frustrating. All the problems they had in communicating with each other and his children. They told us about his ex-wife’s family who criticized her every step and move. And it took time for the children to get used to the situation, to understand and accept Rayah as a mother.

Rayah told me that Hayim means the world to her. His kids compensated her for not having children of her own. During the first year his good heart, wisdom and sensitivity made her fall in love with him. He saw the dedication, sacrifice and love that she lavished on his children. From sad and nervous children they became happy and confident. This made him fall in love with her to the utmost.

They smiled at us and admitted “this wasn’t love at first sight, but this love will last forever!”.

We were so happy for them, and we all decided to stay in touch and get together more.

On our way home my husband (who’s not involved in my business) said to me “Wow dear, you did it big time, good for you!”.

No matter how successful you are – if you have an amazing job you love and you have best of friends – If you’re not married or at least in a relationship leading to marriage, it is easy to feel as if you failed in life. Or even worse, your mother feels that SHE has failed, and she drops the blame on you.

Marriage is often considered to be the Ultimate Proof of Success!

As the old saying goes, “It is not good for a man (or woman) to be alone”.

If you are single, you already know that being alone is not fun at all. Regardless of societal and family expectations, when there is no one to share every day excitement with, life can seem mundane and boring.

How long can you feel like like a third wheel to friends who have their own families and daily frustrations and worries? Also, it’s certainly not very much fun to go back to an empty house day after day. Especially not after meeting with friends, when you want to end up the day in the arms of a special someone, and you find yourself in the arms of your household pet.

For every Bachelor/ Bachelorette there are some difficult moments in life that really aren’t pleasant to deal with. One of them is when you arrive to a wedding – someone else’s of course. That’s when you experience the mercy looks of everyone, and the repeating sayings – “next time it will be you.”

The most difficult times with no doubt, are the holidays. In Israel most people are dealing with two major holidays: Passover and Rosh Hashanah. Here in America, we also celebrate the Non-Jewish holidays.

On one hand it’s nice to have a good reason to celebrate, but on the other hand the holidays season is tough, because it’s all about social gatherings and/or family reunions. That’s when the feeling of loneliness is more focused, simply because it’s so unpleasant to spend the holidays with no spouse.

Couples go on romantic vacations & camping trips, couples have their own private world and connect more easily with other couples. This isn’t the only reason to find a mate, but you must admit the sense of loneliness that exists already inside, is increasing more and more during the holiday season – for both men and women.

Every single woman has something in common with the opening scene of the movie “Bridget Jones’s Diary”. It’s when she comes home for Christmas, to a mother who has a single man to fix her up with, and a sweater she would never have thought of wearing. It’s the questions of her horny uncle or everyone’s needing to fix her up. These are the situations which bring up the feeling as if something is wrong with her. A feeling of total discomfort with a desire to run away as far as possible.

When traveling to Israel for the holidays, you almost always encounter the patronizing looks of pity as if asking: No way! Are you still alone? What could be wrong with you? Won’t you please do your mother/ father/ grandmother/ aunt a favor and get married already…?

When staying in the U.S, you are a “fallout”. You are welcome and always wanted, but still a “fallout” at celebrations of other families. Because even though they love you and accept you, you are still at the mercy of strangers’ invitations, because you are alone.

Fact is we can’t help it. Our society is a mirror reflecting what we really feel – and we can’t run away from it. Because if we wouldn’t mind being alone, we wouldn’t pay attention to what society or our family has to say about our personal situation.

So aren’t you tired of being single? Have you realized that you’re still single only because you chose to, and you can chose otherwise? Isn’t it so clear that you’re willing to do ANYTHING to make a change?

You know, finding a partner is a project like any other project! So set yourself up and go to the “Home Depot” of Jewish matchmaking – My Global Match. Stop making yourself miserable by saying “It’s not meant to be”. Go for it all the way!

Stop thinking “Me? Matchmaking Service?”. People are fixing you up all the time anyway, wouldn’t it be better to do it with a professional?

Pick up the phone right now and call ilana Gutman at (818) 788-8360 so that next holiday you’ll be “Couple”,not “Single.”

You deserve happiness!

The holiday season is one of the most difficult times of the year for singles.

Feelings of loneliness can become more intense when surrounded by married family members and their children. Single men and women feel even more isolated around this time of year.

Inevitably, there will be that one sarcastic family member who raises his or her glass and makes a blessing like “we wish that this coming year will bring our single ______ his / her perfect match. Amen.”

The sense of expectation from family members makes it even harder for unmarried people to feel comfortable about being alone. Family members constantly ask single relatives questions like “So, are you dating anyone?” “Are you thinking about marriage?” “Are children in the plans for you?”

Even if the single person is successful and educated, questions like this can easily make him or her feel like a loser, especially when surrounded by happily married family members and their children.

These feelings are even more pronounced when you are separated from your immediate family and are spending the holidays with extended relatives.

If you have found yourself in this situation one too many holiday seasons, isn’t about time that you did something that could bring about a change in your life?

You might have never imagined that a Matchmaking service could be one approach to finding a potential spouse. But the “How” isn’t important; it’s the end-goal that matters – “the ends justify the means”.

My service, My Global Match, matches single Jewish professionals with like-minded individuals that are interested in long-term relationships, and eventually marriage. My Jewish Matchmaking service is about much more than just casual online dating without commitment. It is about finding your soul mate – a partner for a lifetime.

I cannot guarantee that if you sign up with my service that you will have a spouse by the coming holidays. But I can assure you that if you are persistent, outgoing and open minded about meeting a lot of new people, in the end you WILL meet your soul mate. With God’s help, and mine, you will celebrate many happy holidays with a loving Jewish partner in your own home, surrounded by cherished family members and good friends.

Make a change in your life this holiday season and start by contacting me to set up a non-obligation appointment.

With Greetings for a Happy Holidays
Yours truly,
Ilana Gutman

I know itʼs true that 26 is still considered young and that I have the entire world before me. However, I’m not the type of woman who sits at home waiting for things to happen. When I decided a few years ago that it was time for me to meet my match and settle down, nothing could dissuade me from achieving this dream.

To give you a little history about myself; I came to the U.S after serving the Israeli Defense Forces for 2 years. When I first arrived to California, I stayed with my uncle and aunt who have lived here for more than 20 years.

My first job in the U.S. was as a waitress. This paid me enough money to rent a nice apartment with a
friend in Sherman Oaks. I settled very easily into my new city and had enough money to live comfortably. At that time I also got to know a few Israeli guys who came to eat at my restaurant.

I went out with my new friends, had fun and met my first boyfriend in the U.S. – Boaz. We were together
for two years until he decided to return to Israel for University. The separation was painful but it
was clear to me that I wanted to stay here. I also realized that I had no future with Boaz, who always
dreamed about studying medicine. He announced plain and simple that over the next decade his career
would be the number one priority for him.

After two and a half years I needed a change. I quit my restaurant job and found work as a secretary and sales
associate at a construction company. In the evening I studied Accounting and English.
I was 25 years old, made good money, loved my life in LA, but still felt lonely nevertheless. I decided it
was time to pull myself together and find a partner for life.

At first I told all my friends and relatives that if they knew a nice guy around the age of 30,
whoʼs looking for a serious relationship, they should give him my phone number.

I met several nice guys, but there was no “click”. Also, I did not like that all my friends had to know exactly
what happened with everyone I met. They always tried to convince me to give it a chance even when
I knew there wasnʼt any possibility.

Just when I thought I was running out of options, I signed up for Jdate. It was nice at first and I met lots of men. But I discovered that many of them are just looking for casual fun, and were not interested in commitment and marriage.

I decided to call Ilana Gutman of My Global Match, whose ads I had being seeing for a while.

I arranged an appointment with no obligation. I wanted to know what made her service so different from all of the other dating websites.

Ilana explained that there were countless ways and opportunities to meet “the one”. But the difference between guys who sign up for online dating and her clients is their level of seriousness and their desire to have a
family, without games or pretense. Also, there are dozens of nice people you can find online, but there
are many more crooks, liars, and even married men whoʼre just looking for an adventure.
Ilana convinced me that if a guy pays thousands of dollars to register, heʼs indeed serious about it
and wants a wife & family.

I signed up. At first I was not very pleased. In 3 months I met 12 guys. True, they were serious, they
were nice, but there was no “click” and I almost gave up. Ilana and Dorit calmed me and said I have
to be patient. Iʼll meet the right one, all I needed to do was keep dating people and believe.

Then one day Ilana called saying she had found “him”, the one of my dreams. I was very skeptical and refused to believe. But Ilana insisted that I give it my best and smile.

It happened. The date was amazing!

We didnʼt want to go home. We stayed at the restaurant until they turned down the lights. Before I got
home that night there was a message from him saying he already missed me. I felt exactly the same.

The connection between us was so strong and certain, that we didn’t wait very long before we started planning our wedding. Now, only a few years later, it is like we have known each other our entire lives.

So thank you so much Ilana and Dorit for cheering me up and for not letting me give up. I love
you both always, Peninah.

Baruch, a handsome and kind man who has worked as a carpenter all of his life, loved his wife with all his heart. He was 58 when she died.

His wife suffered from cancer for years. Although they never liked talking about it, Baruch knew the moment would come when she would leave him. The last few years of her life it weren’t easy, he had to do almost everything by himself. The sense of loneliness was terrible. After she died, coming back into an empty house was almost more than he could bear. Baruch had two married children and 5 grandchildren. Everyday he visited them after work and spent his evenings with them.

7 years of loneliness passed by, each year more difficult than the last. One day his daughter-in-law said, “Baruch you are a 65-year-old, nice and handsome man, why don’t you find yourself a life-long partner?” Baruch was very surprised and said “You really wouldn’t mind if I do?”

“Baruch, we want you to be happy” said his daughter-in-law. “We all talked about it and agreed that you can’t live by yourself anymore”. “But where can I find the right woman for me at my age?” asked Baruch. His daughter-in-law took out a paper with a “Global Match” ad and said “I have been following their ads for a long time. I’ll call for an appointment, can I enroll you?” Baruch laughed and said “You set the meeting, I can take it from there”.

All Baruch said he was looking for was a good woman. He preferred a thin Ashkenazi woman (“because they make the best food”). “I don’t like fat women” he also said. “All I want is someone nice to watch TV and have fun with”.

Miri registered to “Global Match” several months before Baruch. She was a petite and thin 60-year-old woman whose life wasn’t easy for her. She lost her husband when her children were very little. She raised them alone without any financial support. It was only when they left the house and had their own families that she finally had time for herself. We thought they could be a good match. This was Baruch’s first date and Miri’s fifth. They had a very pleasant evening together. They felt like they were old acquaintances. The next morning they both called us asking to put their membership on hold, saying that they wanted to give it a try.

They are still together ever since that call.

My name is Rachel and I’m a bank economist. I never thought I was the type of a woman who’d need a Matchmaking Service. I’m definitely not shy and I’m very self-confident. All over the years, ever since I was a teenager, I always had great friends and healthy relationships. It was very important for my parents that I’d marry a Jewish guy.

My parents are the ones who saw the “Global Match” ad in the paper. They called Ilana Gutman without me knowing about it and without my approval. When they finally told me what they did, I was very angry. I said “No Way! I’m going to find my match on my own!”

Almost a year passed since my mother had met with Ilana. During this time I was brainwashed by my parents. They kept claiming that my grandparents must be turning in their graves if they knew their grandchild was dating gentiles. That was when I “gave up” and agreed to meet with Ilana myself.

The meeting with Ilana was very pleasant. There was no pressure at all. Ilana was wondering if I had anything against Jewish guys or Israelis, I said of course not. She asked if I cared to go out with these guys. She assured me they all are very nice, educated and Jewish, and that I don’t have any obligation except to date and meet new people.

I did some thinking and said to myself I had nothing to lose. At least my parents would stop nagging me. And if it didn’t work out, my parents could not accuse me of not giving it a try.

I started dating guys through Ilana’s service. It didn’t take long for me to understand that it was much more simple with Jewish guys. Because we shared the same culture, they understood where I came from. I felt belonged.

I met 7 men in three months. Some of them are still my friends. The Eighth guy was Dudi. Just by talking on the phone it was already clear to me that he was different. We didn’t want to get off the phone. We wanted to meet right away because we became so curious about each other.

Dudi is a Computer Engineer. He is very nice, smart and charming, and he captivated my heart right on the first date. Fortunately he felt exactly the same about me. We dated for about 8 months. At Passover, he fell to his knees and asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes!

I’m so in love and extremely happy, and there is no need to mention my parents’ feelings. They are in heaven over my perfect Jewish match.

Many many thanks to Ilana and Dorit who helped and supported me all the way.

I already recommended to two of my friends at work to register at “Global Match” because I knew they’d get the most devoted service.

Thanks again and we’ll see you at the wedding!!

Irit came to the U.S. when she was very young, following her childhood sweetheart who decided to leave Israel and try his luck in America, where they say “Anything is Possible”.

She was very much in love and very young, only 24 years old. She packed all her belongings, said good bye to her family and friends, and went after her boyfriend David to the other side of the world.

Irit eventually found a good job as a secretary at a moving company. She made very good money. David also found success in starting his own business.

After a few years, although both Irit and David had achieved success in America, they also discovered that their love for each other had disappeared. After many years and many travels together, they decided to separate.

Irit was 31 years old when she found herself alone without any close friends or relatives, as she had spent most of her time at work. She could not avoid the terrible feeling that life was passing her by.

One day she picked up an ad for a Jewish Matchmaking Service for people interested in marriage.

She couldn’t help thinking: “There’s nothing to lose, I think I should give it a try”.

When she came to meet us she was very impressed when we explained how we work. She registered without hesitation.

She met several guys over a short period of time she met several guys. All of them were interested in her and were interested in getting to know her better, but the click wasn’t there for her. She was looking for someone to be together with forever.

After 3 months of dating, she met Sharon. It was love at first sight!

They moved in together only a month after they met. Four months later Irit found out she was pregnant.

That was the greatest joy of all. The family of both sides came all the way from Israel to celebrate a wedding and a “Brit Milah” for their first born baby Liad.

Today Sharon and Irit are very happy parents. They found their happiness thanks to Irit’s brave decision to register to our Matchmaking Service.

So hey, what are you waiting for?

Pick up the phone to set up a meeting that could change your life!

Shalev, an energetic salesperson, registered at “Global Match” two years ago.

Miki, a kindergarten teacher, registered with us a year ago.

Since joining My Global Match, Shalev met over 40 women. Yet almost none of them was the type he was looking for. When Miki registered and started dating, Shalev was the first she met.

The magic was there from the first moment they saw each other.

After only two dates they both called me and asked to put their service on hold because they wanted to give the new relationship a chance.

Another day Miki called. With a laughing voice she said “You told me it takes time to find the right match, and here I found him on my first date through your service. Am I really that irregular?”

Then I replied “You can ask Shalev, I’m sure he thinks you are an irregular woman”.

It took only three months for Shalev to ask Miki to marry him. You guessed right, she said yes!

It was a very large, beautiful wedding with family and friends who came to celebrate with the happy couple.

We, ilana and Dorit, wish them lots and lots of happiness, a successful marriage and many many children!

Amen.

I became widowed two years ago. My wife Yafah and I were together for over 50 years. I felt so lonely and scared when she left. I had retired only two years before her death, with the hope that we could finally begin to enjoy life and travel the world. When Yafah died I became so miserable. Every night I prayed and asked God to join her.

We had no children. Also, our good friends had become older and less social over the years. After 50 years of love and companionship, I suddenly found myself with no one to share my life with. I was lost and alone; a man without a defined place in the world.

Then one day I saw a “Global Match” ad in the newspaper. My first reaction was, “I don’t want another woman. I don’t know how to behave with a woman.” When I was young everything was different. I also assumed that there were no women who’d want a man approaching the age of 70. I disregarded the paper, but I found myself thinking constantly about how I want to find a nice woman. To travel with her, share my life with her. And most of all, I didn’t want to be so alone anymore.

It took me another two weeks and many sleepless nights before I dared to pick up the phone. It was much easier than I thought. On the phone, Dorit was so patient and funny. After we arranged a meeting at their office, I felt like was going to meet new friends, not for an intimidating interview. I wasn’t disappointed.

I met Ilana and Dorit at their warm and homey office. The conversation was filled with lots of laughter and a feeling of good friendship. We all agreed I was a complete novice in the dating area. They told me all about the process and I found out it wasn’t as bad as I thought. I was even very excited by the idea of meeting new people. My requirements were not complicated. I asked for a healthy woman age 60-70, who was in good shape, full of “Joie De Vivre”, intelligent and fun to be with.

I registered and immediately became very excited.

I dated for 5 months and met 10 women. It was difficult at first, because none of them was like my wife Yafah. But I was optimistic. I wanted to believe there was a good reason for me to live. I even could sleep at night.

Then I met Sarah. She reminded me so much of my Yafah, it was really scary. She also lost her husband for a heart disease and had spent over 10 years alone.

We talked for hours about life and being alone. About what we lost, what we lack. It didn’t take too long for us to discover that we didn’t want to say good bye.

Sarah invited me for Shabbat dinner with her children and grandchildren. I found myself surrounded by a loving family and lots of smiles and laughter. To my surprise I enjoyed every minute of it.

At the same weekend we went for a walk on the beach. For the first time I kissed another woman, not my beloved Yafah. I felt remorse, but I knew deep inside that if my beautiful Yafah up there saw me, she would wish me luck and want me to be happy.

Today Sarah and I travel the world together. There are difficult moments, but I know that life must go on. I’m glad to be part of a loving couple once again, sharing the good and bad times together as one. We know that many good years are waiting for us, together.

We thank Ilana and Dorit for supporting us all the way.

Moshe and Sarah’le.

Yael – From Shy girl to Happy Married Woman

My Name is Yael, I’m 27 Years Old and I have a Masters Degree in Law.

I am shy and a bit insecure person. I must also admit that I never had enough self confidence.

As a child I was always my parents’ favorite. I was the smart kid that never got into troubles in school. I always had the perfect grades. I was a total nerd.

As a grown-up person, after graduating High-School, I have started to think about my goals in life. I knew I’d have an academic education. I also knew I’d find the perfect job.

But it wasn’t enough anymore. I have started to think about finding the right match.

A year ago, I found an ad on the “Living In America” magazine. It’s a magazine for Israelis in America. This ad was about “Global Match” – Matchmaking Service for Israelis living in America. So I decided to give it a try and called their office to make an appointment for a personal interview. Without any obligation on my part.

I met with Ilana Gutman. Ilana is a professional matchmaker with over 20 years of experience in this field. She told me about the whole process. I decided to sign up for the service.

I told her that I’m not the Bars/Clubs type of girl and that I’m looking for a down-to-earth type of a guy. Like me.

Prior to each date, Ilana gave me all the information I needed to know about the guy I was about to meet. What type of a guy he was, how he looked like and a bit about his personality in general. I met a few guys, but there was no chemistry. Something was still missing.

After like 2 months I went on a date with Ben. A 28 years old computer engineer, very charming, smart, loving & caring person. We liked each other from the first moment we met. We have spent a wonderful time together for 8 months. I guess it was enough for us to know that, this is it. A bit later Ben proposed and I said yes.

We both want to thank Ilana and Dorit for all the help & support, their highly Dedication & Commitment to their work.

We’ll see you at our wedding!