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A few weeks ago I had an intense discussion with a dear friend about the meaning of success and failure.

My friend claimed that if you don’t reach the maximum of your capabilities you will never be successful. For example: A Doctor at a hospital that realizes he or she will never be a professor or department manager. A Lawyer that aspires to be appointed a judge, but never achieves this dream. An army officer that yearns to reach the rank of colonel but does not. These people will live with a sense of missed opportunity all their lives.

The discussion between me and my friend became even more intense. Can a person who has reached the highest level of their career, such as CEO, Commander in Chief, President or Prime Minister, be happier than a manager, secretary, a salesperson or a nurse?

I claimed that if you love your work, make a good living and still have time for personal interests, such as finding the time to spend with your spouse, your children and your close family, you are much more successful than a senior manager who works 24/7 and makes significantly more money. Often, financially successful people have little or no room for quality time in their lives, because they are constantly working. I gave an example of famous celebrities. Most of them don’t have any spare time for their friends or family.

The debate lasted all evening. Needless to say each of us stayed in his mind.

The problem is that society has become more and more materialistic. Sadly, people are measured by their economic situation. If you’re rich, that means you are a very successful person. No matter how you’ve made your fortune.

For an example: a person who owned many properties was considered successful. But he had lost everything during the recession period. Is he a loser now? Isn’t he the same person you wanted to be friends with, before the crisis?

Are people measured by their contribution to their immediate environment ? By their good heart, generosity, and their ability to be real true friends? Are they measured by their ability to give good advice or a nice word, when someone needs it ? Or are they mainly measured by what they can contribute to others because of their economic situation?

I give up!

I just hope that every one of you appreciates his or herself well, because that is what matters the most.

If you love what you do, if you’re with a spouse you love, if you have children and you can provide them with all their needs like love, security and peace of mind, for me you are the biggest winner.

In case you are not this person, it’s not the end of the world. As long as you are healthy, you are still capable to make a change in your life.

May we all have a wonderful year. May we achieve all the goals we have set for ourselves. May we all believe that there is a winner in each and every one of us!

ilana Gutman

Do we really have to avoid subscribing to a Matchmaking Service when we know our financial situation doesn’t allow us to spend this kind of money?

In the last few months many singles are telling me how lonely they are, how scared they are being alone and how afraid they are just from the thought of growing old alone. The thought of missing the great pleasure of being a parent terrifies many singles.

On the other hand, they also tell me how difficult their financial situation is. They say that there is no way that they can afford paying for a Matchmaking Service.

I turn to them and ask: What is your priority?

When you go to a posh hair salon, buy new designer clothes, or have dinner in an expensive restaurant, do you feel happier and more content? Most people do because they feel that they are investing in themselves.

Investing in a matchmaking service is one of the greatest investments you can make in yourself and your future.

Loneliness is one of the most difficult mental states. You feel you don’t belong to anyone and you don’t have anyone to trust. You feel unsuccessful because you have no one with whom to share your accomplishments. You feel unattractive to others, and you are easily convinced that nobody could love you.

The worst feeling is (G-d forbid!), that you don’t have anything to live for.
Whether it is you or someone close to you that has these signs of distress, then Matchmaking Service is definitely not just another a luxury expense. You have to face the fact there might be a problem and you owe it to yourself and your loved one to solve it.

If you are honestly happy being single and wish to remain that way – and there are many people who love their solitude – then you do not need Matchmaking Service.

If you wake up in the morning thinking how wonderful life is and feel like you have a rich social life filled with interesting people and that you have many opportunities for satisfying relationships whenever you choose, then you also do not need a matchmaking service. Just make sure that you are being true to yourself in this regard.

However, if your day-today reality is unhappy, if you feel increasingly isolated and alone with each passing day, or if you live in a place where you rarely meet new people that you could be interested in, then it’s time to contact “Global Match”.

I have a large variety of high-quality, educated and professional Jewish singles, who just like you, are looking for true love & commitment.

My clients are people that have made finding their true soulmate their #1 priority. They have temporarily given up other luxury items, because they realized that this is much more important to them than going on a cruise, buying another expensive pair of shoes or a fancy dress. They decided to take it into to their own hands because, although they know G-d is there for them, they also know that exciting things only happen with we first help ourselves.

In regard to payment, there’s no reason for you to worry about that. I’ll make sure that each & everyone of you will be able to pay according to her/his personal situation. We’ll make a payment plan that’s right for you!

Hoping to hear from you soon,

Yours,
ilana Gutman

Baruch, a handsome and kind man who has worked as a carpenter all of his life, loved his wife with all his heart. He was 58 when she died.

His wife suffered from cancer for years. Although they never liked talking about it, Baruch knew the moment would come when she would leave him. The last few years of her life it weren’t easy, he had to do almost everything by himself. The sense of loneliness was terrible. After she died, coming back into an empty house was almost more than he could bear. Baruch had two married children and 5 grandchildren. Everyday he visited them after work and spent his evenings with them.

7 years of loneliness passed by, each year more difficult than the last. One day his daughter-in-law said, “Baruch you are a 65-year-old, nice and handsome man, why don’t you find yourself a life-long partner?” Baruch was very surprised and said “You really wouldn’t mind if I do?”

“Baruch, we want you to be happy” said his daughter-in-law. “We all talked about it and agreed that you can’t live by yourself anymore”. “But where can I find the right woman for me at my age?” asked Baruch. His daughter-in-law took out a paper with a “Global Match” ad and said “I have been following their ads for a long time. I’ll call for an appointment, can I enroll you?” Baruch laughed and said “You set the meeting, I can take it from there”.

All Baruch said he was looking for was a good woman. He preferred a thin Ashkenazi woman (“because they make the best food”). “I don’t like fat women” he also said. “All I want is someone nice to watch TV and have fun with”.

Miri registered to “Global Match” several months before Baruch. She was a petite and thin 60-year-old woman whose life wasn’t easy for her. She lost her husband when her children were very little. She raised them alone without any financial support. It was only when they left the house and had their own families that she finally had time for herself. We thought they could be a good match. This was Baruch’s first date and Miri’s fifth. They had a very pleasant evening together. They felt like they were old acquaintances. The next morning they both called us asking to put their membership on hold, saying that they wanted to give it a try.

They are still together ever since that call.

My name is Rachel and I’m a bank economist. I never thought I was the type of a woman who’d need a Matchmaking Service. I’m definitely not shy and I’m very self-confident. All over the years, ever since I was a teenager, I always had great friends and healthy relationships. It was very important for my parents that I’d marry a Jewish guy.

My parents are the ones who saw the “Global Match” ad in the paper. They called Ilana Gutman without me knowing about it and without my approval. When they finally told me what they did, I was very angry. I said “No Way! I’m going to find my match on my own!”

Almost a year passed since my mother had met with Ilana. During this time I was brainwashed by my parents. They kept claiming that my grandparents must be turning in their graves if they knew their grandchild was dating gentiles. That was when I “gave up” and agreed to meet with Ilana myself.

The meeting with Ilana was very pleasant. There was no pressure at all. Ilana was wondering if I had anything against Jewish guys or Israelis, I said of course not. She asked if I cared to go out with these guys. She assured me they all are very nice, educated and Jewish, and that I don’t have any obligation except to date and meet new people.

I did some thinking and said to myself I had nothing to lose. At least my parents would stop nagging me. And if it didn’t work out, my parents could not accuse me of not giving it a try.

I started dating guys through Ilana’s service. It didn’t take long for me to understand that it was much more simple with Jewish guys. Because we shared the same culture, they understood where I came from. I felt belonged.

I met 7 men in three months. Some of them are still my friends. The Eighth guy was Dudi. Just by talking on the phone it was already clear to me that he was different. We didn’t want to get off the phone. We wanted to meet right away because we became so curious about each other.

Dudi is a Computer Engineer. He is very nice, smart and charming, and he captivated my heart right on the first date. Fortunately he felt exactly the same about me. We dated for about 8 months. At Passover, he fell to his knees and asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes!

I’m so in love and extremely happy, and there is no need to mention my parents’ feelings. They are in heaven over my perfect Jewish match.

Many many thanks to Ilana and Dorit who helped and supported me all the way.

I already recommended to two of my friends at work to register at “Global Match” because I knew they’d get the most devoted service.

Thanks again and we’ll see you at the wedding!!

Irit came to the U.S. when she was very young, following her childhood sweetheart who decided to leave Israel and try his luck in America, where they say “Anything is Possible”.

She was very much in love and very young, only 24 years old. She packed all her belongings, said good bye to her family and friends, and went after her boyfriend David to the other side of the world.

Irit eventually found a good job as a secretary at a moving company. She made very good money. David also found success in starting his own business.

After a few years, although both Irit and David had achieved success in America, they also discovered that their love for each other had disappeared. After many years and many travels together, they decided to separate.

Irit was 31 years old when she found herself alone without any close friends or relatives, as she had spent most of her time at work. She could not avoid the terrible feeling that life was passing her by.

One day she picked up an ad for a Jewish Matchmaking Service for people interested in marriage.

She couldn’t help thinking: “There’s nothing to lose, I think I should give it a try”.

When she came to meet us she was very impressed when we explained how we work. She registered without hesitation.

She met several guys over a short period of time she met several guys. All of them were interested in her and were interested in getting to know her better, but the click wasn’t there for her. She was looking for someone to be together with forever.

After 3 months of dating, she met Sharon. It was love at first sight!

They moved in together only a month after they met. Four months later Irit found out she was pregnant.

That was the greatest joy of all. The family of both sides came all the way from Israel to celebrate a wedding and a “Brit Milah” for their first born baby Liad.

Today Sharon and Irit are very happy parents. They found their happiness thanks to Irit’s brave decision to register to our Matchmaking Service.

So hey, what are you waiting for?

Pick up the phone to set up a meeting that could change your life!

Shalev, an energetic salesperson, registered at “Global Match” two years ago.

Miki, a kindergarten teacher, registered with us a year ago.

Since joining My Global Match, Shalev met over 40 women. Yet almost none of them was the type he was looking for. When Miki registered and started dating, Shalev was the first she met.

The magic was there from the first moment they saw each other.

After only two dates they both called me and asked to put their service on hold because they wanted to give the new relationship a chance.

Another day Miki called. With a laughing voice she said “You told me it takes time to find the right match, and here I found him on my first date through your service. Am I really that irregular?”

Then I replied “You can ask Shalev, I’m sure he thinks you are an irregular woman”.

It took only three months for Shalev to ask Miki to marry him. You guessed right, she said yes!

It was a very large, beautiful wedding with family and friends who came to celebrate with the happy couple.

We, ilana and Dorit, wish them lots and lots of happiness, a successful marriage and many many children!

Amen.

One of the questions I am asked often by parents who care about their children’s future is, how can we help our child meet an appropriate match, even if they don’t like the idea of using a matchmaking service?

I say – first of all, are you sure you know enough about your child’s personal life to determine for sure that he/she isn’t involved emotionally with anyone they don’t want you to know about?

For example, your child might be involved with a married person,  a divorcee with children or a non-Jewish person. Or maybe your child is not into it at all because he/she is gay or lesbian.

Are you open enough with your childn to know the true reason that he or she is single? Perhaps it is not only a result of limited social life.

I ask this because on many occasions parents have registered their child to my service and when we called him or her, it turned out he or she wasn’t emotionally available at all. Moreover, she or he has long been in contact with a partner that their parents probably did not approve of or even know about.

However, if you are certain that your child is emotionally available and wants to meet someone, then it’s a perfect time to begin to “probe” what she or he thinks about dating through a matchmaking service.

You might be surprised to find out that they are happy about the idea and are willing they are to cooperate, especially when they know that you’re paying for the service, not them.

If you succeed in convincing your child to make an appointment, I will meet with them in person and explain how the matchmaking process works. I will first learn what type of people your child finds attractive and then describe what type of matches I will introduce her/him to. Once the registration interview is complete, we are set to go.

However, there are a few kids who might be offended by your suggestion to set them up on a date and might respond “what am I a cripple or disabled? Do you really think I need help?  I can find my match by myself,  I don’t need anyone’s help!”

If your child responds in this way, you can say: Thank G-d you’re not cripple or disabled, but your social networks & activities are limited around you. You are not exposed to the right people, people serious enough who are looking for marriage, not just to go out for casual dates.

If they refuse to make an appointment, which often happens, don’t mention it again to your child. Make contact with one of their good friends and tell them about your plan. Ask them to be the contact between me and your child. You’ll be surprised how easily your child will agree to go on a date with a friend’s recommendation rather than a mother’s or father’s.

If the friend is willing to cooperate, which likely happens, from that moment everything is very simple. We schedule a meeting, you bring pictures of your child and the contact number of the good friend who’s willing to help us. I tell this friend about our plan, and together we make up a “cover story” as for how to introduce a potential match to your child.

Sounds difficult to do? Maybe. But remember this: it will be much more difficult if your daughter or son stays single, or marries someone who is not suitable for them just because of the fear of staying alone.

So……..Come on parents, get to work !

Call me, I’ll be glad to meet with each of you. Together we’ll do everything we can so that next year your son or daughter will be happily married to their Jewish soulmate.

Yours Truly,
ilana Gutman

818 224 9544
818 788 8360

Yael – From Shy girl to Happy Married Woman

My Name is Yael, I’m 27 Years Old and I have a Masters Degree in Law.

I am shy and a bit insecure person. I must also admit that I never had enough self confidence.

As a child I was always my parents’ favorite. I was the smart kid that never got into troubles in school. I always had the perfect grades. I was a total nerd.

As a grown-up person, after graduating High-School, I have started to think about my goals in life. I knew I’d have an academic education. I also knew I’d find the perfect job.

But it wasn’t enough anymore. I have started to think about finding the right match.

A year ago, I found an ad on the “Living In America” magazine. It’s a magazine for Israelis in America. This ad was about “Global Match” – Matchmaking Service for Israelis living in America. So I decided to give it a try and called their office to make an appointment for a personal interview. Without any obligation on my part.

I met with Ilana Gutman. Ilana is a professional matchmaker with over 20 years of experience in this field. She told me about the whole process. I decided to sign up for the service.

I told her that I’m not the Bars/Clubs type of girl and that I’m looking for a down-to-earth type of a guy. Like me.

Prior to each date, Ilana gave me all the information I needed to know about the guy I was about to meet. What type of a guy he was, how he looked like and a bit about his personality in general. I met a few guys, but there was no chemistry. Something was still missing.

After like 2 months I went on a date with Ben. A 28 years old computer engineer, very charming, smart, loving & caring person. We liked each other from the first moment we met. We have spent a wonderful time together for 8 months. I guess it was enough for us to know that, this is it. A bit later Ben proposed and I said yes.

We both want to thank Ilana and Dorit for all the help & support, their highly Dedication & Commitment to their work.

We’ll see you at our wedding!

The story of Hanna

My name is Hanna. I became a widow when I was 55 years old, after my husband Abraham was diagnosed with cancer and passed away. We had been together all our lives. After so many years of real love & happiness, and suddenly it’s all gone – I was in total shock. Even with all the love and support from my children & grandchildren, I felt lonely and miserable. I couldn’t believe I’d ever find happiness again. The house was so empty.

Many of our friends kept inviting me to hang out with them, but it wasn’t the same. I always felt like the fifth wheel. I had to face the truth. From now on, I’m single for the rest of my life.

One day my friend Martha called. She found a very interesting ad on the local LA newspaper. This ad was about “Global Match”. My first reaction was like “are you kidding me they don’t ‘deal’ with people at my age, I’m too old ! I’m about to celebrate my 59th birthday!”.

Martha didn’t give up. “ Come on, what have you got to lose? give them a call and ask. They won’t charge you for just getting basic information, right? I’ll even join you.”

I called them. A very kind girl named Dorit was on the line. She told me about the process and recommended me to come for a personal interview.

Martha came with me to the meeting. It took us only a few minutes and we both felt very comfortable there. I had a very strong feeling I could trust them. I knew they’d make an effort to find me a mate for life.

After the interview I knew this wasn’t going to be easy though. I have never dated other people. There are so many people out there who are searching for love. But it takes some time to find the right one. And all I needed was to be patient and open-minded.

I signed up for the service and we hit the road.

I dated Israelis and Americans as well during a period of 6 months. It wasn’t easy for me. You know….after so many years not dating anyone but my husband. Here I must say that Ilana and Dorit were very supportive, they encouraged me to never give up hope. And as hard as it was, I felt that my life was about to change.

Then I met David. I knew it was different right from the start. We laughed a lot, we had a great conversation. I told him about my family and he also shared stories about his son and grandson. We instantly found a lot in common. We didn’t want the date to end.

When I came home, there was a message from David saying that he had a great time, and that he was looking forward to see me again.

We dated for a few months and had a wonderful time together. I never believed this could happen. I never believed I could love someone else but my husband. We were so happy and decided to move in together. Our kids and grand-kids are so happy for us and very supportive.

We would like to thank Ilana and Dorit for being so supportive and caring. Their dedication is very much appreciated !

We hope that other people like us would find happiness like we did.

Edan – Me? A Matchmaking Service?

I met Yael around my late 20’s. I loved her from the first moment I saw her. We dated for two years and decided it was time for us to get married and have kids. She was the love of my life. After 2 years of marriage we had our first son. A year later we had a daughter – Gabriela. We had a strong bond, great marriage & 2 wonderful children. I was simply the happiest man alive. Until that day. The day when my wife wasn’t feeling well. After running a few tests, her doctor gave us the worst news ever. My wife was diagnosed with cancer.

The next 2 years were the hardest and the saddest time of my life. After a long struggle with this horrible disease, my wife succumbed and past away.

It was very hard for me to face the reality. I was widowed, very weak and heart-broken. But I knew I had to be strong for the sake of my children.

During the 2 years after my wife’s death, all I did was taking care of my kids and be attentive to their needs. I wanted them to have a normal life despite what happened. Also, the emotional stress was too high for me to focus on my social life.

When I did start wondering what was out there for me I couldn’t even think about online dating. I wanted a woman with maternal instincts. A woman who was willing to accept my children as if they were her own. Someone who could understand what I was going through and accept me the way I am.

I never imagined myself contacting a matchmaking service, but I found myself having little time to look for a good match for myself, and I wanted to meet a woman who I could truly care about, and who could care about my children and myself.

I decided to contact Global Match, because a matchmaking service would help me find a Jewish date with a woman who knew that I had two kids, who loved children, and who could be a good match for me. It is very hard to meet good matches when you are a single father and have to dedicate a substantial time to your kids. As a single father I have to be careful of who I let into my children’s lives. When I met Ilana, I knew this was a a good decision. She worked hard to find a truly good match for me, according to my circumstances and lifestyle.

Today, I’m in a great relationship with a Kindergarten Teacher who loves kids. We have been together for 8 months. My kids have a lot of affection for her and that makes me very happy.

Thanks to Ilana and “Global Match” today I can find Love and Inner Joy in life.