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Edan – Me? A Matchmaking Service?

I met Yael around my late 20’s. I loved her from the first moment I saw her. We dated for two years and decided it was time for us to get married and have kids. She was the love of my life. After 2 years of marriage we had our first son. A year later we had a daughter – Gabriela. We had a strong bond, great marriage & 2 wonderful children. I was simply the happiest man alive. Until that day. The day when my wife wasn’t feeling well. After running a few tests, her doctor gave us the worst news ever. My wife was diagnosed with cancer.

The next 2 years were the hardest and the saddest time of my life. After a long struggle with this horrible disease, my wife succumbed and past away.

It was very hard for me to face the reality. I was widowed, very weak and heart-broken. But I knew I had to be strong for the sake of my children.

During the 2 years after my wife’s death, all I did was taking care of my kids and be attentive to their needs. I wanted them to have a normal life despite what happened. Also, the emotional stress was too high for me to focus on my social life.

When I did start wondering what was out there for me I couldn’t even think about online dating. I wanted a woman with maternal instincts. A woman who was willing to accept my children as if they were her own. Someone who could understand what I was going through and accept me the way I am.

I never imagined myself contacting a matchmaking service, but I found myself having little time to look for a good match for myself, and I wanted to meet a woman who I could truly care about, and who could care about my children and myself.

I decided to contact Global Match, because a matchmaking service would help me find a Jewish date with a woman who knew that I had two kids, who loved children, and who could be a good match for me. It is very hard to meet good matches when you are a single father and have to dedicate a substantial time to your kids. As a single father I have to be careful of who I let into my children’s lives. When I met Ilana, I knew this was a a good decision. She worked hard to find a truly good match for me, according to my circumstances and lifestyle.

Today, I’m in a great relationship with a Kindergarten Teacher who loves kids. We have been together for 8 months. My kids have a lot of affection for her and that makes me very happy.

Thanks to Ilana and “Global Match” today I can find Love and Inner Joy in life.

My Name Is Ilana Gutman

When I tell people I’m a Matchmaker, they ask: ”What kind of a profession is that ?”

Indeed, you don’t have to earn a certificate nor a degree to be a Matchmaker.

A matchmaker is characterized as curious, nosy, caring for others and most of all having a love for people. Now you must be thinking “I know at least 100 curious & nosy people, than what’s the difference?”

I do believe that it’s very possible that if there hadn’t been a tragedy in my life, I could have been one of these people.

I grew up in Haifa, Israel. We were a typical Ashkenazim family of two loving parents and four children. My mom was a housekeeper, my dad was self-employed. We had dinner together every night. We played cards every Friday night. We had a picnic & a BBQ every Saturday.

On one of those Saturdays on “Simchat Torah”, we had a picnic with friends of my parents near the Lake Kinneret. We played ball, we swam and had good food.
Suddenly my dad became nauseous. It took only a few minutes for him to collapse and die of a stroke.

My father was 39 when he died. Strong, Healthy and Irresponsible.

Now you must be asking :” Irresponsible”???  Irresponsible because when he died my mother had nothing.

No Life-Insurance, No Profession, No Secured Income.

My mother was 36 with four kids to look after. With help from Ministry of Welfare and good friends, she picked herself up. She took every job she could find, She even studied at night. A few years later she could stand on her feet and support herself with four kids.

Giving up would have been very easy. I didn’t let her. I supported her in any way I could. I convinced her to believe that there are still decent men out there. All she had to do was keep looking. Finally she realized that she couldn’t give up. She must go on dates until she finds the right man for her.

My mother finally found her life-long partner. Yes, they are still together.

Her bad experiences, disappointments and heartbreaks brought me to the conclusion that no matter what’s your age or personal status, you want and need a loving partner.

It may sound unreasonable, but at the age of 20 I knew I was going to be a Matchmaker. Indeed, After a few years I opened a Matchmaking Service at my hometown. Later on, I opened three more locations – Jerusalem, Tel-Aviv & Be’er Shevah.

I devoted all my life to Matchmaking. Hundreds of couples who got married through my service are the most rewarding prize for years of hard work. It was very frustrating at times, but I wouldn’t trade this profession in any other.

I know it’s difficult to open up your heart to a total stranger when you need help, especially when you are paying for it. If you trust me enough to lead the way, I promise to do ANYTHING in my power not to let you down and find the perfect life-long partner for you.

There’s nothing more important in life than good Health. I believe that having a family with a loving partner is as important.

There’s a reason for the saying :”Not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him”.

So don’t be embarrassed, call me. There is no obligation to anything on the first meeting. We’ll talk about what you’re looking for and together we’ll make your dream come true.