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I first met Yariv, a 30 year old computer engineer, about two years ago. He signed up for my Jewish matchmaker service with the intention of finding his Jewish soul-mate and settling down to start a family.

He was in my service for 6 months and met ten women in that time. He was not interested in any and had become discouraged about the prospects of meeting a women he would want to marry.

Then I introduced him to Lilach, a pretty, smart, 29 year old graphic designer. She had signed up for my service 3 days before I introduced them. Yariv was her first match and it was love at first sight.

They met in February and Yariv asked Lilach to be his wife in May.

The rest is history.

If you are single and Jewish and would like to learn more about my Jewish matchmaking services, please contact me.

Shalom, ilana Gutman

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According to the Talmud, a Jewish man without a Jewish wife is incomplete. The Talmud states that marriage is the ideal state for Jewish men and women.

In modern times, the importance of marriage has been somewhat de-valued in society. Other goals, such as education and career, have taken precedence over finding a Jewish spouse.

This focus on tangible achievements are positive things as society has evolved and women occupy an equal space. When the Talmud was written, women did not work or attend school. Also, men were the primary bread winners; they simply did not have the time to date and socialize, and depended on family, rabbis and match-makers to find their mates for them.

Thankfully, things are no longer this way. Women and men are equal and there are countless ways for individuals to meet potential mates.

However, finding a suitable Jewish match is still of great importance to many Jewish singles, although this has also become harder as life has become more complicated. In a fast-paced world, it’s hard to find the time to meet people in the traditional ways; at synagogue, through community functions or through relatives. Many Jewish men and women have turned to the internet to find potential mates. This new form of dating brings about its own set of difficulties. Jewish singles have to filter through countless anonymous matches to find their Jewish mates. And in the process, Jewish singles must kiss a lot of frogs before finding their prince or princess. They also have to deal with many singles that are not even Jewish, and do not share a common background and faith.

It is my belief that many Jewish singles would prefer to meet other Jewish singles through “old-fashioned” ways, they just don’t know how to go about it. This is what inspired me to transfer my traditional Jewish match-making business to the internet. I started my business in Haifa, Israel more than 20 years ago. At that time, the internet was still a novelty which most people did not even know how to use, including myself .

Using a traditional matchmaker provides a nice buffer between you and the millions of Jewish singles out there. Match-makers screen all of your matches, and ensure that you’re meeting the best and brightest. It’s like being matched by a friend rather than an anonymous website.

My son, who is a software engineer in Israel and very brilliant beyond his years, suggested to me about 8 years ago that I start an online match-making business. He saw how many successful matches I had facilitated during my career, and felt that Jewish singles all over the world could benefit from my services. The internet is the single platform that can reach anybody anywhere.

So this is how my online business originally started. Now, I meet the majority of my clients through the web. If you would have told me 20 years ago that tools like blogging and Google would be a part of my daily life, I would have laughed.

If you find yourself caught up in the whirlwind of daily life, and are not meeting quality Jewish singles on the internet, give me a call for a free consultation. It is my life-purpose to help Jewish singles achieve the ideal state as written in the Talmud, “Shalom Bayit” or Marital harmony with your Jewish soul-mate.

Shalom and Mazel Tov, ilana

The tradition of match-making in the Jewish culture has been around since the times of Abraham in the old testament. In those times match-making was referred to as “Shidduch”, in which orthodox Jewish singles were introduced to each other through a very formal system. In each community, singles were introduced to each by family members, friends or the village match-maker.

Match-making was designed to introduce Jewish singles to one another for the specific purpose of marriage. The process was developed to filter out casual encounters or inappropriate candidates, and introduce Jewish singles to the best and brightest in their communities.

In modern times match-making has become much more relaxed and casual, however the basic concepts and benefits still exist. When given the choice of anonymous online dating or enlisting the help of a professional Match-maker, here are a few points to consider.

The Benefits of Match-Making for Jewish Singles

1. Match-making ensures that Jewish singles meet serious, like-minded individuals interested in marriage;

2. The Match-maker qualifies the Jewish singles before they meet, in order to screen and filter out people that do not meet basic needs and expectations;

3. The Match-maker acts as a guide and counselor to the Jewish singles throughout the dating process. If there are issues, concerns or problems, the Jewish singles can speak privately with the Match-maker and receive advice and comfort;

4. The Match-maker acts as a buffer and an additional security measure in dating. When working with a Match-maker, especially for women, you know that you are not meeting singles that are potentially dangerous or imbalanced.

So if you are considering signing up for an online dating service, speak with us first. You will find that we will save you time and headache in the process of meeting new Jewish singles.

Shalom, ilana

It seems as if the whole world is dating online. These days it’s rare to meet someone who hasn’t found their significant other through the internet. It’s not a choice between JDate or “offline” dating, but between JDate or Match.com or e-Harmony.com or any one of the other millions online dating sites.

Online dating has transformed Jewish culture in a tremendous way, since the advent of sites like Jdate and Frumster. These sites were at the forefront of all online dating, even though they focus on the needs of Jewish singles. I think this is because “Match-making” has always been an important concept for Jewish singles. Since the beloved musical “Fiddler on the roof”, Jewish Matchmakers have historically been important figures in Jewish society. However, while the Jewish culture has undoubtedly benefited from the evolution of online dating, many aspects of this new form of matchmaking are foriegn to the Jewish culture.

The Jewish community is extremely tight-knit. Most of the choices we make are based on the advice of family and friends. Whether it is finding a plumber to fix your sink or a doctor to remove your tonsils – Jews tend to stay within the community and follow the referrals of trusted Jewish sources. This is why it is extraordinary that Jewish singles use online dating to find romantic partnerships, because the people you meet through the internet are anonymous, unknown and not a part of a trusted referral network.

This is why many Jewish singles are disappointed with online dating. Unlike most part of our lives, Jewish singles are using the internet to help them make one of their most important decisions in life – who they will fall in love and start a family with. It’s funny that while most of us will not trust the internet to find a doctor, we will trust it to find our soulmate.

When I was growing up in Israel, the internet didn’t even exist! When a young woman or man came of age, usually after their term in the military, the local matchmaker in their community would pair them with a potential partner, and usually these matches would equal love at first sight. Because the Matchmaker had known these children their entire lives, knew their families and background – the matchmaker would have keen sense of what these young people were looking for in a partner.

The internet inspired me to transfer my matchmaking service to the online world so that I could bridge the gap between traditional matchmaking and modern technology. Technology makes it easy to connect with an unlimited number of people, some good, some bad. My online matchmaking service acts as a buffer between Jewish singles and cyberspace. I offer Jewish singles the convenience of technology to find an unlimited number of singles, however I personally screen and qualify each individual before they meet each other, helping improve the chances that the two Jewish singles will hit it off and find true love.

So if you are trying to decide which online dating service to register with, why not call me first and set up a free consultation. I have offices in New York, California, Florida and Israel and am available 6 days a week to discuss your needs and hopes in finding a Jewish partner.

Being Jewish is a different experience depending on who you are and where you live. Judaism is as much a culture as it is a religious faith.

As far as marriage and dating is concerned, Jewish people have particularly unique thinking. Unmarried Jewish singles have a lot of pressure regarding marriage and dating. Jewish parents are usually obsessed with the idea of their children finding the perfect Jewish match.

Many Jews feel very sensitive about the subject of marriage and dating after World War II. Because so many innocent Jewish lives were lost, there was a big pressure on Jewish singles to only have romantic relationships and marriage with other Jewish singles.

One would think that there is a huge pool of Jewish singles to choose from. Wrong.

For example, lots of young Jewish students go to Jesuit or Catholic universities. It’s a strange phenomena, but many of these schools have top law and medical programs, making them very attractive for young Jewish students.

It’s very difficult to meet Jewish singles outside of family, friends, and school.

This is where matchmaking comes into the picture. And notice I said “matchmaking” and not “dating”, as most Jewish singles are looking for solid, long term relationships that will eventually lead to marriage with a Jewish soul mate. Online dating is a more casual activity, really intended for recreation rather than starting serious relationships. Not to say that there aren’t Jewish singles who have met their partners online, but it is much more difficult and time consuming to meet quality Jewish singles this way.

Because of all the reasons mentioned above, Jewish matchmaking services have become even more important in Jewish culture.

Services like My Global Match help young, old, unmarried and widowed Jewish singles find a large, highly qualified pool of Jewish singles to choose from.

ilana Gutman, the founder and CEO, personally screens and interviews each candidate before he or she enrolls in the service. The service My Global Match provides is personalized and extensive, and ilana has an in-depth interview with each candidate before they sign up to determine that she can successfully match them with the Jewish single of their dreams before they sign up.

ilana screens each person to make sure there physical description is accurate, that they are successfully employed, and that they do not have a dangerous past. This is what differentiates matchmaking services from online dating. When you meet someone online, you have no idea if they are really who they say they are. You have to first take the chance in meeting them in person and hope for the best.

With My Global Match Jewish matchmaking however, you know exactly who you are meeting in advance. You know how they look, what they do for a living, where they were born, what goals and expectations they have in life, and that they are serious about finding their Jewish soul mate.

In today’s super-charged modern lifestyles, Jewish singles can get so caught up their daily lives, that they miss the truly important aspects of life, like love and family. For many young Jewish singles, and for singles in general, it’s difficult to find the time and space in life for a special relationship. The demands of work and the distractions of living in a big city can make it easy to overlook what is truly important; finding a true Jewish love to share a life with and start a family.

For Jewish singles who have been hurt or betrayed by past relationships, getting back into the dating game is even more difficult.

ilana Gutman’s Jewish matchmaking service can be an invaluable resource for people looking to find a serious long-term relationship, and eventually marriage, with their Jewish soulmate.

My Global Match helps Jewish singles meet a selective pool of educated, well-employed and serious Jewish professionals. ilana Gutman spends hours carefully interviewing and getting to know her prospective clients, so that she can match them with Jewish singles that share similar tastes, hobbies, and family goals.

It is a comforting thought that Jewish singles, whether they are divorced, widowed, in their early twenties or still single in their middle fifties, no longer feel that they are left to their own devices. For those who are tired of Internet dating and want a more personalized, premiere service, My Global Match is an ideal option.

Call ilana today at (818) 788-8360 to schedule a free consultation.

I was recently reading an article in aish.com written by a 68 year old Jewish woman who said that she gave up on the hope of romance at age 30. After a number of rejections in her 20s, she simply could not bear the thought of being disappointed ever again. So for thirty she has remained alone with no hope of finding her true Jewish soulmate.

This woman wrote that when she was young, she often wished her father, who was a professor, would bring home a nice boy for her meet. She hated the dating game, and never felt that she truly achieved real intimacy with the men she casually dated. She felt that the men she met only wanted physical intimacy, without taking the trouble to really get to know her as a person.

She writes that “in today’s fast and shallow Facebook world, so many relationships — even without physical intimacy — are coming to resemble…emptiness more and more. There can be a kind of promiscuity without physical contact. It occurs wherever people “get to know” one another without coming to care for one another.”

For all of those people who can relate to this woman’s feelings and experiences, I want to tell you that there is hope.

Every single person on this Earth deserves to love and be loved. Also, every person deserves to be loved for who they are, without any false pretenses or illusions.

With my Jewish Dating Service, My Global Match, my goal is not to set you up on a casual date that will last for a few weeks or months. My goal is to match you with someone that can lead to the long-term goal of marriage and children. There is none of the “emptiness” that the woman above describes in the Jewish matches that I arrange. My service is not a meat market like many online dating sites. It’s not about the quantity of dates – it’s about the quality of people that you will meet through my service.

Don’t get me wrong, I can’t guarantee that every date I match you with will be “The One”. But I can promise you that I will closely listen when you describe what you are looking for in a partner, and I will find potential Jewish singles that can complement your likes and dislikes, and who will want to spend time with you getting to know the real you.

So if you ever ask your self “Should I Give Up on Love?”, the answer is 100%, absolutely NO! The one for you is out there. Call me so that we can discover your destiny together.

Love,

ilana

My friend gave me an article written by a young Jewish school teacher. One day she asked her class the question, “What is true love?”

Initially, not one person responded to her question. Then she said, “I will tell you what love is, and then you can agree or disagree”

So she said “True love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person.” Every child in the room raised his or her hand.

When I read this I thought, this is how all of my adult relatives and friends approach love as well! It’s a physical “feeling”, almost like magic, that hits you when you meet your soulmate.

But is this true? I don’t think so. True Love is more than simply a physical reaction, it’s also a very complex emotional and physcological experience.

I wonder if this is why there are so many casual one-night-stands where “true love” sweeps over two people one moment, and then completely disappears when they realize they have nothing in common.

If you believe that there is more to Jewish Love than a momentary sensation that is there one moment and gone the next, I encourage you to contact me.

At My Global Match we believe that true love is a multi-dimensional emotion, based on a hundred different factors, from looks, intelligence, honesty, humor, charm and much more. We thoroughly interview our clients so that we can set them up on dates that can last a lifetime, rather than a moment.

This is why I spend hours with each of my clients before I send them out on dates. I want to know who they truly are, so that I can pair them with a Jewish single that be a true match in more than just the physical sense. The Jewish matches that I arrange are built on True Love that has a stable foundation, where both people truly know one another, and the love is more than just a feeling – it’s a way of life.

If you are considering joining a Jewish matchmaking or dating service, please give me a call. I would love to chat with you about what you are looking for and explain how My Global Match can help you achieve your true dreams in finding a Jewish Soulmate.

Looking forward to speaking with each and every one of you,

ilana

A few weeks ago I had an intense discussion with a dear friend about the meaning of success and failure.

My friend claimed that if you don’t reach the maximum of your capabilities you will never be successful. For example: A Doctor at a hospital that realizes he or she will never be a professor or department manager. A Lawyer that aspires to be appointed a judge, but never achieves this dream. An army officer that yearns to reach the rank of colonel but does not. These people will live with a sense of missed opportunity all their lives.

The discussion between me and my friend became even more intense. Can a person who has reached the highest level of their career, such as CEO, Commander in Chief, President or Prime Minister, be happier than a manager, secretary, a salesperson or a nurse?

I claimed that if you love your work, make a good living and still have time for personal interests, such as finding the time to spend with your spouse, your children and your close family, you are much more successful than a senior manager who works 24/7 and makes significantly more money. Often, financially successful people have little or no room for quality time in their lives, because they are constantly working. I gave an example of famous celebrities. Most of them don’t have any spare time for their friends or family.

The debate lasted all evening. Needless to say each of us stayed in his mind.

The problem is that society has become more and more materialistic. Sadly, people are measured by their economic situation. If you’re rich, that means you are a very successful person. No matter how you’ve made your fortune.

For an example: a person who owned many properties was considered successful. But he had lost everything during the recession period. Is he a loser now? Isn’t he the same person you wanted to be friends with, before the crisis?

Are people measured by their contribution to their immediate environment ? By their good heart, generosity, and their ability to be real true friends? Are they measured by their ability to give good advice or a nice word, when someone needs it ? Or are they mainly measured by what they can contribute to others because of their economic situation?

I give up!

I just hope that every one of you appreciates his or herself well, because that is what matters the most.

If you love what you do, if you’re with a spouse you love, if you have children and you can provide them with all their needs like love, security and peace of mind, for me you are the biggest winner.

In case you are not this person, it’s not the end of the world. As long as you are healthy, you are still capable to make a change in your life.

May we all have a wonderful year. May we achieve all the goals we have set for ourselves. May we all believe that there is a winner in each and every one of us!

ilana Gutman