Posts Tagged ‘jewish singles’

When I first met Avrhaham, we spent hours talking about his adventures as a New York taxi driver. His parents were Jewish immigrants who moved to New York before World War II, and Avrhaham has spent his entire life and career traveling along the New York city streets.

Avrhaham wasn’t a very social person, and had only a few serious relationships in his adult life. One morning he awoke and realized he was alone in his middle 40s, without a wife or children. The dating game was impersonal and intimidating to him, and he rarely had the opportunity to meet nice single Jewish women.

He saw a My Global Match Jewish Singles ad in a local paper, and decided to call.

When he met ilana Gutman, he was very impressed by the scope of her Jewish match making services. However, the idea of spending thousands of dollars to find a soul mate seemed financially risky for him. He was after all a middle aged man saving for his future.

He decided that finding a Jewish wife and having children was just as important as saving for his retirement. After all, if he did not have someone to share his golden years with, what’s the point of having money to spend?

Avrhaham met Sara after she had met 17 guys. She was a widow and homemaker looking to find that Jewish special match. Sara was the third woman Avrhaham had met.

They married within two years and are happily planning the rest of their lives together.

What are you waiting for? Call ilana today to meet your perfect Jewish match.

Los Angeles (818) 224-9544
New York City (646) 924-7039
Florida (786) 471-7190
Israel (972) 52-839-6232
Las Vegas (702) 326-5544

When I met Rosi and Jokob, they were both divorced, with children, and somewhat jaded after their experiences in failed marriages.

Rosi was one of the most challenging single Jewish women that I’ve worked with in my almost 30 year career. I say this with all the love in my heart, because her love story is also one of my favorites.

Rosi met 50 Jewish guys before finding Jakob. She had been with My Global Match for more than two years, and month after month, I would match her with single man after single man. These were successful Jewish guys with nice personalities, financial stability, and the desire for a long-term, committed relationship, yet none of them was a match for Rosi. She was not willing to settle for anything less than magic, love at first sight.

Jakob however, was an easy-going Jewish bachelor who was looking to find love and companionship after a difficult separation and divorce. He wanted to find a Jewish woman that would get along with his children, and be a true friend and life partner. Jakob had only met four Jewish women before meeting Rosi, and was a client for only a few months.

When Rosi called me the morning after their first date, bursting with excitement, I must say I was shocked. It was as if she was struck with Cupid’s arrow, she could not stop talking about Jakob. I called him immediately after speaking with her, and asked “Did you put a love potion in her drink!? You have made my most complicated client fall in love on the first date!”

Needless to say, their Jewish match was one of my proudest moments. It brings me so much joy to see these two with each other years after they first met.

Even if you are picky like Rosi, or easy going like Jakob, do not hesitate to call me. I will help you find your true Jewish bashert, or soul mate.

ilana Gutman
Los Angeles (818) 224-9544
New York City (646) 924-7039
Florida (786) 471-7190
Israel (972) 52-839-6232
Las Vegas (702) 326-5544

האגדה אומרת שחודש הדר הוא החודש השמח ביותר בשנה הסיבה שהוא כה שמח היא שכל אחת ואחת מבקשותינו בחודש זה מתממשים.
אז אולי זה הזמן לעשות חשבון נפש כל אחד ואחד מאיתנו ולחשוב מהי באמת הבקשה הכי הכי חשובה עבורינו
.עבורי הבקשה החשובה ביותר היא שילדי ונכדי ישארו קרוב אלי ולא יחליטו לחזור לארץ.
כמובן שכולנו מבינים שבריאות ופרנסה הם הדרישה הראשונית . מי שמוטרד מאיך לסיים את החודש קשה לו לחשב על בקשות אחרות אבל גם כאלה שאינם מוטרדים מבעיות פרנסה ותודה לאל גם מרגישים טוב פיסית הבקשה הכי חשובה של כולנו היא להיות אהובים חשובים נחשבים מוגנים ונערצים עיי בן או בת הזוג שלנו .
אך מה קורה עם אין לנו מישהו שמרגיש כך כלפינ? האם בקשה לאהבה וזוגיות היא הבקשה הנכונה?
אני נשואה לאותו גבר כמעט 30 שנה וכל יום שישי על הנרות אני מבקשת להמשיך להרגיש כלפיו אותו דבר ושהוא ימשיך להאמין שאני הדבר הכי טוב שקרה לו בחיים ותודה לאל התפילות עד היום עזרו.
זוגיות ואהבה היא עבודה קשה שלעולם לא מסתיימת אבל כשמבצעים אותה נכון התוצאה היא אחד הדברים הנפלאים בעולם.
האם אתם נלחמים על מציאת זוגיות? האם כשאתם בזוגיות שיש תקלות וסיבוכים האם אתם לא מוותרים מהר מידי.האם אתם נלחמים על הקשר או מרימים ידים ורצים לקשר הבא?
אני יודעת שאין אדם שבאמת רוצה בזוגיות ומוכן להשקיע בקשר ונשאר לבדו .ולהגיד אני רוצה קשר או אני מוכן לקשר זה לא אומר שאתה באמת עושה הכל כדי להצליח בקשר.
אז אם זו הבעיה ואתם לא יודעים איך אני פה בשבילכם לשאלה, לבקשה, ולעזרה במציאת אהבת חייכם.
נכון פרנסה ובריאות חשובים לא פחות אבל אם אנחנו אומללים נפשנו פגועה וקשה לנו להיות מאושרים או שמחים בחלקינו. ואמרו חכמינו “נפש בריאה בגוף בריא”
להיות שמח בחלקך ומאושר ממצבך עושה אותך בריא יותר.
אז אם הבקשה שלכם לחודש הדר היא אהבה וזוגיות תרימו טלפון ויחד נדאג שבקשתכם תתממש.
לקוחת השבוע היא יהודיה אמריקאית אלמנה קטנה ויפה עשירה ואינטלגנטית
מחפשת גבר ששולט בשפה האנגלית ( הגברת אינה מדברת עברית אבל אוהבת את מדינת ישראל בכל ליבה)
הגברת בת 68 אבל נראית צעירה לגילה אנרגטית ומלאת שמחת חיים
היא אינה מעוניינת לפרנס ולתמוך בגבר.
אבל אם אתה פנוי ומעונין בקשר רציני ואתה אינטלגנט איש שיחה ומסודר כלכלית
נשמח להכיר בינכם ללא שום התחייבויות מצדך
להשתמע אילנה

When should I stop looking for a Jewish husband and consider having a child on my own?

This is a recurring question that I hear frequently from women over age 30 who come to me for matchmaking service. Often before they consider signing up for my service, they have already seriously thought about the possibility of giving up on love and marriage, and having a child as a single mom.

They ask me “I am a single woman without children. At what age should I give up and think about having a child alone in fertilization and without a spouse?”

I tell them that there is no definite answer. When a women thinks about the possibility of having a child alone she should ask herself the following questions.

1) Am I in a financial situation that allows me to support a household and a child alone?

2) Can I take time off work and be with the baby in the first few months?

3) G_d forbid, can I afford to stop working if there are complications during the pregnancy?

4) Do I have the mental and emotional support and a supportive environment? (pregnancy often accompanies mood swings and feelings of inadequacy)

5) Do I have family and friends around me to be there if needed while I am pregnant? Does your family support you if, G_d forbid, catastrophe strikes and you are no longer able to care for your child?

6) Are you strong enough to cope with raising a child alone?

If the answer is “Yes” to all these questions, then you should consider the steps involved in in vitro fertilization.

Ideally, you want to find a good friend, someone you know, trust and are confident has good health and also wants a child. Even though your plan is to have this child on your own, you will be surprised how often you need the support of a good friend to help you through the most important experience of your life. Having a friend be your sperm donor with make the process more supportive, less lonely and will also be very good for the child and s/he grows up.

However, if it is not possible for you to have a friend as donor, visit your gynecologist and discuss the procedure in great detail. Understand the health risks, the financial obligation, and the options you have in finding an anonymous donor.

The second question I get from women considering having a child on their own is if it will be more difficult to find a partner and my answer is an unequivocal no!

You will need to be more selective and cautious in dating and you selection of a Jewish mate. When you have a child, it is very important to only introduce them to people that you are dating seriously, and have plans of being in a long-term, committed relationship. Children become easily attached, and you do not want your child disappointed if a short-term, casual relationship does not work out.

I often work with single Jewish parents, and one of the best services I provide to them is my careful screening of their prospective dates. When they speak with me, they know I have spent hours talking with their potential Jewish match, and that the person I am setting them up with is serious, committed, employed and has a good background and history. This is extremely important when you are single parent entering the dating game.

If you are a women considering life as a single parent, or if you are single, Jewish and already with children, please do not hesitate to contact me. I understand your unique situation and can cater to the needs of you and your child when helping you find a Jewish soulmate and life partner.

Ilana Gutman
Los Angeles (818) 224-9544
New York (646) 924-7039
Florida (786) 471-7190
Israel (972) 52-839-6232
Las Vegas (702) 326-5544

Ben came to my Jewish matchmaking service when he was 29 years old. He was a successful real estate investor living in Los Angeles. Even though he was attractive, young and successful, he found himself alone after many years of spending all his time in building his property management business.

He knew he needed help in meeting nice Jewish girls after a spending a holiday with his family. All of his brothers, sisters and cousin were gathered at his family’s house. Most of them were in his age group, yet happily married and starting families with their spouses. It made him depressed and lonely, even though he was surrounded by his loving family who were completely accepting of him, even if he was single.

Ben never considered himself a person who would need the help of a Jewish dating service. However, he put his pride behind him and contacted ilana Gutman at My Global Match. He had actually heard of her Jewish matchmaking service through a friend, and knew she had a good reputation in the Jewish community.

In his first meeting with ilana, she immediately put his insecurities to rest. ilana was warm, candid and felt like a friend rather than a stranger. It was so more comforting than the idea of signing up with websites like JDate.com, as many of his single friends had done. Also, he knew that most of his single Jewish friends that used online dating services never had any luck in finding quality people. Most of the men and women they met just wanted casual hookups, or did not share the same life goals and ambitions. Ben took his dating life very seriously, and wanted to meet a woman that shared his most valued ideals, like love, commitment, and the desire to have children.

ilana told him that she had a 70% – 75% success rate in matching serious Jewish singles. She was honest that sometimes her matchmaking service could take months, or even years to work. However, she assured him that his contract would not end until he found the perfect woman, a Jewish woman that he would want to have a serious relationship with and build a family.

Noha is a 26 year old biology student who had been registered with ilana’s dating service for a few months. She was educated, attractive, and had met quite a few Jewish men through My Global Match. However, Noha was also very picky and was finding it difficult to make a connection, even though all the Jewish men she met were interested in her.

Everything changed when Ben and Noha met each other. They could both feel the atmosphere around them change when they set eyes on each other. After 3 dates, they called ilana and told her to pause their service, they wanted to explore this connection.

They were married less than 2 years later. Their first child is now on the way.

What are you waiting for? Contact My Global Match Service for Jewish Singles for Singles!

Several years ago, I met a Jewish woman with a 26 year old daughter. Her daughter was a law school student, very successful with a bright future ahead.

However, her daughter was so preoccupied with her academic achievements, that she invested no time in her social life or in meeting eligible Jewish men. Her mother was very afraid that her child would end up alone, surrounded by money and material goods, but without love and a caring Jewish family.

Her next dilemma was that her daughter was very proud, and would never in a million years admit that she needed the help of a Jewish matchmaking service. She had attempted to persuade the daughter to register with My Global Match in the past, yet her daughter refused. When the mother came to me, she signed her daughter up for my service after several phone calls, yet made me promise that I never reveal my identity to her daughter, or let her know that my Jewish dating service was responsible for finding her dates.

A fascinating fact about my Jewish matchmaking service is that about 10% – 15% of my clients do not know they are my clients! Their parents register their children in the service, and we go through elaborate measures to make sure the children never find out.

The young woman met a few guys in the office and after a year met a handsome and nice Jewish man, who is a computer engineer. I had informed him of the situation before he went on dates with the young woman, and he had spoken to her mother so that they could fabricate a story. The ruse that we told the young woman was that her mother was setting her up with a nice Jewish son of a close friend. Her daughter totally believe the fable, met the young man, and fell head over heels. A year later they married without her ever knowing that she had been set up by a Jewish dating service.

Several years passed and I needed the services of a lawyer in Tel Aviv. When I arrived I greeted the young lawyer and she helped me fill out a questionnaire in her room. On her desk was a picture of her with her husband and a baby, I immediately recognized it as the law student whose mother signed her up without her knowledge.

Before I left her room she called me and asked me “Are you Ilana Gutman, the famous Jewish matchmaker?” I said “Yes”. She said, “Can I ask you something?” “Of course” I replied. She responded, “Tell me the truth – does your service really find quality dates for Jewish singles? I find it really hard to believe that a service like yours can work”.

I laughed and answered “no”.

If you are a parent with a proud Jewish daughter or son, who is single and not finding quality dates, please contact me today. No matter what the situation is, we can help your child find their Jewish soulmate.

אחד מסיפורי ההצלחה המצחיקים שאני רוצה לחלוק אתכם – מצטערת סיפור זה יהיה ללא שמות ותמונה

לפני מספר שנים הגיעה אם דואגת לבת סטודנטית למשפטים בת 26, למרות שהבת הייתה צעירה, האם דאגה כי לביתה לא היו חיי חברה והדבר היחידי שעניין אותה היה לימודים וקריירה.

האם ניסתה לשכנע את בתה להרשם, אך היא סרבה בכל תוקף ולכן לאחר מספר שיחות טלפון איתי, האם החליטה לרשום את בתה ללא ידיעתה.

הבחורה הכירה דרך המשרד מספר בחורים ולאחר כשנה הכירה מהנדס מחשבים נאה ונחמד (ששיתף פעולה עם האם) ושנה לאחר מכן הם התחתנו, כמובן ללא ידיעתה.

מספר שנים חלפו והייתי זקוקה לשרותיו של עוד תל אביבי ידוע, כשהגעתי לפגישה קיבלה את פני עורכת דין צעירה ונחמדה ועזרה לי למלא שאלון בחדרה, על שולחנה הייתה תמונה שלה עם בעלה ותינוק, מייד זיהיתי שמדובר באותה סטודנטית למשפטים שאמה רשמה ללא ידיעתה.

לפני שיצאתי מחדרה היא קראה לי ושאלה אותי “האם את אילנה גוטמן השדכנית?” ואני כמובן עניתי בחיוב “אפשר לשאול אותך משהו?” “כמובן” עניתי “עם יד על הלב, האם למשרדי שידוכים באמת מגיעים אנשים איכותיים? ממש קשה לי להאמין”.

צחקתי ועניתי לה “לא”.

The success story Marta and David is a romantic tale of two devoted Jewish singles finding love after the passing of their spouses.

David was a naval mechanic for many years and had been married to his wife since he was a young man. He was 78 when she passed away. When his wife died he also felt that a part of him died with her, that his Jewish soul mate was gone forever and that he would not find true love again.

He had been retired from the Navy for many years when his wife passed. His children and family began to worry, since he now spent his days alone reading or sitting in the park, without the company of a companion. They saw an ad for ilana Gutman’s Jewish matchmaking service for Jewish singles. ilana Gutman’s promise to match Jewish singles with serious, committed partners impressed David’s family, and they felt this Jewish matchmaking service would be unique from the rest.

Marta was 75 and a lover of nature. She worked as a park manager her entire career, and met her Jewish soulmate when she was a young woman. She and her husband both shared a love of the outdoors, travel, and had spent many wonderful years together. When he passed, she like David, also believed her opportunity for love and companionship with a true Jewish soulmate had passed.

Marta joined My Global Match because of her close friend’s recommendation. She spent three years in ilana’s Jewish singles dating service before meeting David. He had spent 1 year in the service.

Even though they had been on many dates through My Global Match, their first date with each other was special. They had been with My Global Match for years and were beginning to feel that the service would not bring them a Jewish match. But when they saw each other the first time, it was magic. They both felt like teenagers, excited, full of laughter.

After the second date, they both contacted ilana and told her to pause their dating service. They enjoyed each other so much, they never wanted their dates to end.

They were married within a year, and now share the joy of love and companionship a second time in their lives.

What are you waiting for? No matter your age or circumstance, it is never to late to find your true Jewish “bashert” or soulmate.

Gal found My Global Match when she was 35 years old. She is a corporate secretary and had spent many years focused on her career and attaining professional success. At the same time, she longed to find her Jewish soulmate and bershert to share her life with. She found herself in and out of the Jewish singles scene, having the occasional match but never finding that true spark. Her work always came first, but in spite of her career accomplishments, life felt empty.

After joining My Global Match, she spent two years meeting different Jewish men in ilana Gutman’s service. ilana delivered many nice, eligible single Jewish men as promised, however, that spark, that special something was missing with each one.

Then she met Danny. He had only signed up two months before, and had one met two Jewish singles. Gal was his third. Danny is an accountant with little time for a social life, and like Gal, wanted to meet his true Jewish soulmate.

It was like magic when they first met. For Gal, there was a magnetic attraction like none she had ever felt. At last, she had found her spark.

השבוע נשאלתי בפגישה במשרדי עיי חנה גרושה בת 38 איך אני מתאימה בין זוגות? איך אני מחליטה מי מתאים ולמה אני מאמינה שאצלי היא תמצא את כל התשובות!
מכיוון שבכל הפגישות במשרדי השאלה הספציפית חוזרת על עצמה החלטתי לנסות להסביר איך אני פועלת.

כשלקוח מצטרף למשרד אנחנו ממלאים לו שאלון שם הוא עונה על שאלות כלליות מאד כגון:גיל מצב משפחתי כמה ילדים יש לו ובני כמה הם. האם הם גרים איתו והאם הוא רוצה ילדים נוספים מה גובהו ומשקלו מהי וכמובן רמת השכלה והאם הוא דתי מסורתי או חילוני.

השאלון הזה הוא אך ורק המסגרת על נתוניו האישיים מצבו הכלכלי ועדין אין לנו מושג על אישיותו על סגגנון חייו בקיצור על האדם שעומד מאחורי השאלון.

באותו שאלון האדם מספר לנו על דרישותיו מהצד השני האם הופעתה החיצונית היא הדבר הכי חשוב או שחשוב שתהיה חכמה וטובה ובעלת חוש הומור כל הנתונים האלה נלקחים בהחשבון. כשאנחנו מספרים לחנה על דני אנחנו יודעים שהוא בגיל המתאים לדרישתה ובמצב הכללכלי הנדרש והוא לא שמן ו לא נמוך.

כאשר אנחנו מעבירים לדני את הטלפון של חנה בהסכמתה כמובן אנחנו נותנים לה דרך להכיר בן זוג שעונה על דרישותיה. אבל זה לא אומר שאותו קליק שמדביק אנשים יחד יקרה באותה פגישה אם זה קרה נפלא ואם לא לא נורא נשמע מדני מה הוא אהב או לא אהב בחנה ונשאל את חנה מה היא אהבה או לא אהבה בפגישה עם דני
הדברים האלה הם שגורמים לנו להיות יותר ממוקדים ולהבין את הלקוחות שלנו טוב יותר מפגישה לפגישה.

הרעיון הוא לחשוף אותך למעגל של פנויים שלא רק שהם עונים על דרישותייך הם נמצאים היום באותו מצב ריגשי שאת נמצאת והם בדיוק כמוך מחפשים קשר בית אהבה משפחה וילדים

ולכן כשתכירי את הנכון ויווצר אותו קליק זה לא יהיה גבר שעדין לא פנוי רגשית או לא יכול להתחייב כי מצבו הכלכלי גרוע או סתם עוד לא בקטע של התחייבות אלא דרכינו אחרי חודשים ספורים מדברים על עתיד משותף כי הכוונות ברורות מראש ישנה הצהרת כוונות בלהגיע למשרד הכרויות למטרת נישואים אני לא מחפש חברה או סקס או עם מי לנסע לאגם אני מחפש שותפה לחיים.אני רוצה להקים בית ומשפחה

באותה פגישה חנה שאלה אותי כמה זמן את חושבת שיקח לי למצא את הנכון?
עניתי לה שרק אלהים יודע זה יכול להיות הראשון וזה יכול להיות העשירי זה יכול לקחת חודש שנה או חמש שנים וזאת בדיוק הסיבה שהחוזה שלנו לא מוגבל לא בזמן ולא במספר הכרויות הוא מסתיים רק עם הצלחת הלקוח.