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Hayim and Rayah

Hayim came to “Global Match” two years ago. He was 55 years old widower with two children, a 10 year old son and an 8 year old daughter. He wasn’t looking for love, he honesstly didn’t think he would ever find it again. But he wanted his children to grow up with a mother and felt that he owed it to them to start dating again.  He signed up with My Global Match and hoped to at least find a nice person to share his life with. Romance was not at all on his radar.

Rayah signed up for our service at the same time. She is a 48 year old psychologist who had never been married and had given up on findng her soulmate.  She really wanted to have children, but thought it was a distant dream for her at this point in her life  She signed up for our service as a final attempt.  All she wanted was to find a life-time loving partner “Someone to watch TV with at nights, someone to go out for dinner with, once in a while”, as she said

When I introduced Rayah and Hayim, I thought to myself “they’re a good fit. They have the same world view.” I strongly felt some unexpected surprises were waiting for them

On their first meeting Hayim was a bit jaded and told Rayah that he didn’t want to waste any time on romantic dates and  nights out. He she suggested that she meet his children. If they’d get along, he would pursue something with her. They would take it from there and see.

Three months after their first meeting, I recieved a letter in the mail. I hadn’t heard from Rayah after their fourth date.  I assumed everything was going well because I usually speak to my single clients every week.

I was right. Love had found both of them. The letter was from Rayah writing about their wonderful romance.

Coincidentally, one night almost two years later I went to a movie with my husband. In front of us there was an elderly couple who kept cuddling and kissing. When the movie ended and the lights went on, there I noticed them. No other than Rayah and Hayim, who were quite happy, like school kids in love. I turned to them and introduced them to my husband as my friends. They asked us to join them for coffee, I said it’d be our pleasure.

During the evening they told me about how the first year was difficult and frustrating. All the problems they had in communicating with each other and his children. They told us about his ex-wife’s family who criticized her every step and move. And it took time for the children to get used to the situation, to understand and accept Rayah as a mother.

Rayah told me that Hayim means the world to her. His kids compensated her for not having children of her own. During the first year his good heart, wisdom and sensitivity made her fall in love with him. He saw the dedication, sacrifice and love that she lavished on his children. From sad and nervous children they became happy and confident. This made him fall in love with her to the utmost.

They smiled at us and admitted “this wasn’t love at first sight, but this love will last forever!”.

We were so happy for them, and we all decided to stay in touch and get together more.

On our way home my husband (who’s not involved in my business) said to me “Wow dear, you did it big time, good for you!”.

No matter how successful you are – if you have an amazing job you love and you have best of friends – If you’re not married or at least in a relationship leading to marriage, it is easy to feel as if you failed in life. Or even worse, your mother feels that SHE has failed, and she drops the blame on you.

Marriage is often considered to be the Ultimate Proof of Success!

As the old saying goes, “It is not good for a man (or woman) to be alone”.

If you are single, you already know that being alone is not fun at all. Regardless of societal and family expectations, when there is no one to share every day excitement with, life can seem mundane and boring.

How long can you feel like like a third wheel to friends who have their own families and daily frustrations and worries? Also, it’s certainly not very much fun to go back to an empty house day after day. Especially not after meeting with friends, when you want to end up the day in the arms of a special someone, and you find yourself in the arms of your household pet.

For every Bachelor/ Bachelorette there are some difficult moments in life that really aren’t pleasant to deal with. One of them is when you arrive to a wedding – someone else’s of course. That’s when you experience the mercy looks of everyone, and the repeating sayings – “next time it will be you.”

The most difficult times with no doubt, are the holidays. In Israel most people are dealing with two major holidays: Passover and Rosh Hashanah. Here in America, we also celebrate the Non-Jewish holidays.

On one hand it’s nice to have a good reason to celebrate, but on the other hand the holidays season is tough, because it’s all about social gatherings and/or family reunions. That’s when the feeling of loneliness is more focused, simply because it’s so unpleasant to spend the holidays with no spouse.

Couples go on romantic vacations & camping trips, couples have their own private world and connect more easily with other couples. This isn’t the only reason to find a mate, but you must admit the sense of loneliness that exists already inside, is increasing more and more during the holiday season – for both men and women.

Every single woman has something in common with the opening scene of the movie “Bridget Jones’s Diary”. It’s when she comes home for Christmas, to a mother who has a single man to fix her up with, and a sweater she would never have thought of wearing. It’s the questions of her horny uncle or everyone’s needing to fix her up. These are the situations which bring up the feeling as if something is wrong with her. A feeling of total discomfort with a desire to run away as far as possible.

When traveling to Israel for the holidays, you almost always encounter the patronizing looks of pity as if asking: No way! Are you still alone? What could be wrong with you? Won’t you please do your mother/ father/ grandmother/ aunt a favor and get married already…?

When staying in the U.S, you are a “fallout”. You are welcome and always wanted, but still a “fallout” at celebrations of other families. Because even though they love you and accept you, you are still at the mercy of strangers’ invitations, because you are alone.

Fact is we can’t help it. Our society is a mirror reflecting what we really feel – and we can’t run away from it. Because if we wouldn’t mind being alone, we wouldn’t pay attention to what society or our family has to say about our personal situation.

So aren’t you tired of being single? Have you realized that you’re still single only because you chose to, and you can chose otherwise? Isn’t it so clear that you’re willing to do ANYTHING to make a change?

You know, finding a partner is a project like any other project! So set yourself up and go to the “Home Depot” of Jewish matchmaking – My Global Match. Stop making yourself miserable by saying “It’s not meant to be”. Go for it all the way!

Stop thinking “Me? Matchmaking Service?”. People are fixing you up all the time anyway, wouldn’t it be better to do it with a professional?

Pick up the phone right now and call ilana Gutman at (818) 788-8360 so that next holiday you’ll be “Couple”,not “Single.”

You deserve happiness!

The holiday season is one of the most difficult times of the year for singles.

Feelings of loneliness can become more intense when surrounded by married family members and their children. Single men and women feel even more isolated around this time of year.

Inevitably, there will be that one sarcastic family member who raises his or her glass and makes a blessing like “we wish that this coming year will bring our single ______ his / her perfect match. Amen.”

The sense of expectation from family members makes it even harder for unmarried people to feel comfortable about being alone. Family members constantly ask single relatives questions like “So, are you dating anyone?” “Are you thinking about marriage?” “Are children in the plans for you?”

Even if the single person is successful and educated, questions like this can easily make him or her feel like a loser, especially when surrounded by happily married family members and their children.

These feelings are even more pronounced when you are separated from your immediate family and are spending the holidays with extended relatives.

If you have found yourself in this situation one too many holiday seasons, isn’t about time that you did something that could bring about a change in your life?

You might have never imagined that a Matchmaking service could be one approach to finding a potential spouse. But the “How” isn’t important; it’s the end-goal that matters – “the ends justify the means”.

My service, My Global Match, matches single Jewish professionals with like-minded individuals that are interested in long-term relationships, and eventually marriage. My Jewish Matchmaking service is about much more than just casual online dating without commitment. It is about finding your soul mate – a partner for a lifetime.

I cannot guarantee that if you sign up with my service that you will have a spouse by the coming holidays. But I can assure you that if you are persistent, outgoing and open minded about meeting a lot of new people, in the end you WILL meet your soul mate. With God’s help, and mine, you will celebrate many happy holidays with a loving Jewish partner in your own home, surrounded by cherished family members and good friends.

Make a change in your life this holiday season and start by contacting me to set up a non-obligation appointment.

With Greetings for a Happy Holidays
Yours truly,
Ilana Gutman

My name is Sigal. I signed up for Global Match in March of 2008. When I joined My Global Match, I was in my early 40’s and wanted to find a relationship with someone who really wanted marriage and children. I had become weary of regular internet dating sites, and was usually disappointed by the men I met. It seemed that I only met men looking for a casual experience or hook-up. I wanted something real and long-lasting. I decided to take one last chance with Ilana’s Match Making service after one of my friends was successful with My Global Match.

I took the first step and contacted Ilana and Dorit for a free consultation. I knew I had made the right decision once I stepped inside the office. Ilana explained that My Global Match is only for people who are interested in serious relationships. She does not sign up people who just want to date without any intention of becoming serious. Ilana also meets each and every client in person, which guarantees that all the information about the client is completely accurate. After the free consultation I was more than pleased and immediately signed up to meet my perfect match.

During the first month with Global Match I met 5 different men who all matched my requests, but unfortunately the chemistry was not there. I spoke with Ilana and Dorit after each date and told them my honest impressions. It was as if I quickly gained two new best friends after I signed up with My Global Match – I was speaking to either Ilana or Dorit on a weekly basis, telling them in-depth about each of the men they matched me with.

At the end of April, Dorit called and was confident that she had the right match for me.

Dorit was right. Date number 6 was love at first site when I was introduced to Yoram. The next day after the initial meeting both Yoram and I called Dorit to let her know how pleased we were and did not want to go on any other dates for now.

A few months after our first date, Yoram asked me to marry him before the year is up. Now, more than a year later we are so happy and cannot thank Global Match enough for introducing us.

Thank You Global Match….

Yoram & Sigal